Rogue: A person who truly loves you will make no attempts at changing you. Most relationships are unions of convenience. Society says we have to pair up, so at a certain age we grab whatever person is halfway interesting. Failure is almost guaranteed. Better to remain single into old age than connected to the wrong person. One sad fact of life, as I observe it, is that true, lasting love and commitment among humans is a rare thing. Lots of people stay together for decades for all kinds of reasons (mostly financial) but few still awaken each morning with their only thought being as they look upon their mate next to them still sleeping; how can I make this person smile today? Serving them coffee in bed is a good start. I like to call our dogs into the bed and have them jump on my wife. This always pleases her. Marriage and long term relations have nothing to do with what you get, it's what you give. Honest to whatever god you like.