thanks for the replies, all!
ive quite a bit to think about.
I ride 200k regularly(about once a week) and 300 occasionally (once a month).
My longest distance to date is 200 miles (the toronto hairshirt)
I'm looking forward to doing some sanctioned brevets next season and I want to make my bike is "up to code" so to speak; hence, the lighting querry.
nick, i dont think those drivers are stupid....just a bit absentminded.
if I'm driving a car and someone comes at me with their high beams on, I flick my high beams at them and they dim their lights quickly.
This practice is quite common and is seen as a code or a signal.
You're just speaking their language!

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Cyril