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RidingMatthew 01-24-18 01:50 PM


Originally Posted by NyoGoat (Post 20125986)
I have a 13 mile commute each way. I've been riding twice a week for the last two years. I'm trying to convince my wife to let me ride more but she isn't going for it. On days I don't commute I can make breakfast for the kids before I leave.

I've gone through all of the tricks to make this commute feasible, I've played with different bikes, different bags, different lights, lockers at work, having bikes banned on site and having to walk 1 mile to finish the commute. The hardest thing for me to overcome is convincing the wife the time commitment is worth it more than twice a week.

Any advice on how to get more riding days?

I ride 11-12 miles one way so I am riding about the same time you are depending on speed. I don't usually make breakfast for my kids any day I decide to drive. it is a time commitment but for us. She likes my body in shape :love:and the stress levels down and that comes from commuting by bike.


maybe she would let you do a group ride on the weekend?

robertorolfo 01-24-18 02:52 PM


Originally Posted by caloso (Post 20127822)
I don't know about your district but in most schools, my kids' included, a fresh hot lunch has been replaced by a warmed-up (maybe) prepackaged deal. My kids would much rather brown-bag it.

Well, my school lunches were often hot and "fresh," but the quality wasn't great. Prepackaged doesn't necessarily equal bad, as some packaged meals can be rather healthy.

If their preference for the brown-bag is simply a matter of taste, well then that's a separate issue.

I also used to use my lunch money to buy other kid's lunches that they didn't want, or were tired of. Do kids even know what cash is these days?

raceboy 01-25-18 10:20 PM

Minority viewpoint: Enjoy making breakfast and spending time with your kids while you can. You will have plenty of time to commute 5x a week after they grow.

Andy_K 01-25-18 11:11 PM

Do you have a way to transport your bike on your vehicle? If so, you could drive part way then park and ride the rest of the way. This might save 15 or 20 minutes on each end and give you the time your wife is asking for.

On the work end, assuming cars are allowed through, could you have a co-worker pick you up at the gate?

Skipjacks 01-26-18 07:46 AM


Originally Posted by raceboy (Post 20132486)
Minority viewpoint: Enjoy making breakfast and spending time with your kids while you can. You will have plenty of time to commute 5x a week after they grow.

You know what?

I change my answer to this.

canuckjgc 01-26-18 10:01 AM

One problem is that she sees it as a hobby. It's literally life and death: Commuting by bike can cut cancer risk by half - BikeRadar

With little kids I suspect commuting time is the only exercise you get. So it's a big deal to stop doing it. Kids over 6 or 7 should easily be able to make cereal, peel a banana or (god forbid) toast a pop tart, and get themselves ready for school. If it takes 2 adults to get this done you're doing it wrong.

rumrunn6 01-26-18 10:27 AM

every time I'm tempted to offer spousal or parenting advice, I remember not to

dbikingman 01-26-18 04:04 PM

What about the option of alternating riding and driving. Ride in one morning and the drive home and then drive in the next day and ride home. This wouldn't increase the number of rides, but let you ride more days. Perhaps, you could increase the length of the ride home to increase the total miles for the week.

There are several good options above too, but you and your spouse have to find what works.

Off point, but the final mile issue of not being able to ride, but it is ok to walk seems odd.

Also, consider looking into "travel reduction" or "commuter reduction program". Often if a business has a certain number of employees they can use these programs for their employees. I would think an industrial plant could benefit from being able to say they use environmentally friendly productions methods AND even use/encourage travel reduction amongst employees.
Sorry for the last part being a rant. It doesn't help with riding more, but it got me fired up. Maybe I should go for a ride. :)

Bike Gremlin 01-28-18 08:47 AM

Ask some women on advice. Both for dealing with it with your wife and for job bicycle restriction. BF is mostly male, from what I can tell. Understanding her angle, seeing how to make a win-win deal, or at least a decent compromise so no one is "damaged" (can't think of a better English word, sorry).

Korina 02-02-18 09:13 PM

Do you have a slow cooker? You can use it to have breakfast ready when you all get up. Alton Brown has a great overnight oatmeal recipe, and there's probably ton of recipes at foodnetwork . com.

If that doesn't work, as stated above, be patient until the kids are older. HTH.


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