Fiancee doesn't like it when I bike to work
08-30-07, 08:45 AM
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She needs to do more biking, so she understands the pleasure of a stress free commute in heavy traffic. Then compromise - say you will take the car or bus when the roads are icy or thunderstorms are forecast.
08-30-07, 12:42 PM
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But yes, there's no risk to counseling. I don't mean to imply otherwise. But the suggestion that he needs counseling based on an oversimplified account of a single conversation (which he later clarified) is either absurd or offensive, depending on who is saying it. Unless you think that everyone, everywhere needs counseling, which is itself kinda sad.
No, what would be sad would be to avoid getting a "relationship check-up." If it's a healthy one, it will only make the relationship better, especially in the long run.
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08-30-07, 02:37 PM
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To take the analogy farther, in this case many contributors to this thread have gone on to tell you that you smell bad, you're stupid and, just in case you didn't already know, everyone talks about you behind your back.
There's a point at which friendly advice crosses a line into bitterness. Many comments here went way, way past bitterness. It's not about what the OP needs to hear, but rather what we are qualified to proscribe.
Actually, I would recommend some competent form of counselling for everyone before marrying. It's a whole lot more difficult and painful to divorce than it is to avoid marrying for the wrong reasons, especially once children are involved.
No, what would be sad would be to avoid getting a "relationship check-up." If it's a healthy one, it will only make the relationship better, especially in the long run.
No, what would be sad would be to avoid getting a "relationship check-up." If it's a healthy one, it will only make the relationship better, especially in the long run.
