Latest weirdness...
Out driving a friend around, her doing errands.
Home, nap time.
Wake up from hour nap.
Very first thought.
Gotta Check On Esther!

Not troubled by these thoughts of her.
I find it Very Disorienting.

My cousin says par for the course.

Thanks for sharing that, sweet but sad. Especially for me nice my wife of >40 years has an eventually fatal disease. Someday I’ll be in your shoes.

Road Fan,
Very sorry to hear of your wife's illness.
Many times, I had to remind myself of those long-ago vows - Better or Worse - Sickness and Health.
I/We am/were blessed with a great care team. I hope you have the same.

See if this has value.
Probably first, remember to take care of yourself. If you fall apart or break down or get injured your ability to care for her will be diminished, and your stress will rise.
To the extent help is available, ask for it. Forget that macho B.S., toughing it out nonsense.
Make sure both of your estate plans are in shape.
Talk Therapy. Not for everybody. Has helped me tremendously. Ask around in your circle for a reference.

Best of Luck,
fat biker

Is it just me or is the title to this thread mildly disturbing? I won’t even ask about life insurance.

rsrob,
I apologized for the title in post #19.
One of my biggest problems since her passing has been sleep.
Some days are better or worse. Two or more sequential nights with disturbed sleep results in trouble thinking!!
Getting an appointment with my sleep doc has been a challenge
Hope springs eternal.

fat biker

I would never post this type of video after someone's immediate loss, but since it's been a while, I hope this provides some comfort. There are many other such accounts, this is NOT a unique story.

I use this one story, because this is no new age freak, rather she's a board-certified orthopedic spine surgeon.

This is a Reader's Digest version of her (Dr Mary Neal) story, if you look up the longer version with more detail, it's an incredible story.

You Tube

There is no by the book way to mourn. I have not lost my spouse, but I’ve lost family (parents & two brothers) & my best friend since childhood. I didn’t mourn the same for any of them. Not a day goes by that I don’t shed tears for my friend (lost in 2022). Each cry gives me a little more peace. I may never finish mourning her tragic death, but I have found a way to get through each day & enjoy my life. I wish you the best & hope you find ways to enjoy life. Never forget the love you had together. She will always be in your heart.

SidSincere, No truer words were ever spoken. Thanks for the reminder.

fat biker

I realize you are trying to be helpful and I know religious belief helps some, but underwater without oxygen for 30 minute and survived. Give me a break!!

For me, mornings are the worst, when I expect my Maureen to be beside me. After 12 months since she died, it's getting easier, but suspect it will never go away and I'm not sure I want it to. I still sleep on "my" side of the bed.

Lucky for me, my wife of 53 years will probably outlive me, possibly because of my interventions in her life. That thought haunts me. I don't know what I'd do in the OP's shoes. I might not be as strong as he is. I've had a wonderful, charmed life, largely because of her.

I just celebrated 42 years of marriage. I married very well, my wife not so much. My heart goes out to those who have lost the love of their lives. I don't know what I would do without mine.

My Grandfather and Father have a quote on their tombstones: "To live in the hearts we leave behind is not to die" Thomas Campbell.

Obviously the good doctor did not die, unless you believe people can rise from the dead. As for all the religious stuff, sounds like a lot of nonsense to me.

There are thousands of stories like the Doctor's experience and this is less about religion and more about something else. However, if you think these stories are BS, fine, I don't care.

Besides, this is not the appropriate thread to debate the topic -- I'm out.




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I agree. This is not the appropriate thread. so why did you post the video here? I'm out, too.

My spouse's bloodwork came back very abnormal. We don't know what it is yet, and I'm really scared. She's had cancer twice already.

Hope it's all manageable. Good Luck.

I will be keeping a good thought for your wife, her blood work and you too.