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Old 04-16-11, 01:31 PM
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OT: Friend your ex on Facebook?

You get a friend request on Facebook from your ex. What do you do?
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Old 04-16-11, 01:37 PM
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You get a friend request on Facebook from your ex. What do you do?
Remember why you divorced her?
 
Old 04-16-11, 04:49 PM
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That's why they have the ignore option.
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Old 04-16-11, 04:56 PM
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My Dad, who is 85 and going strong and still married to my Mom, always says you can never be friends with your ex. Ironically, my ex friended me on FB a few months ago but it's been so long (20 years) and we're 3,000 miles away from each other, that I figured no harm could come of it. But as a rule, I wouldn't friend an recent ex. My husband isn't on FB and frankly, I'm happy about that. Not that I'm trolling for dates or anything (hardly) but I like having a place to hang out without having him know every crazy thing I say or post.
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Old 04-16-11, 05:02 PM
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If you have a relationship still why not...you can always "un-friend".
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Old 04-16-11, 05:05 PM
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ROTFLMAO, then punching, NO FRIEND ASAP!!
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Old 04-16-11, 05:05 PM
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Not a chance.
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Old 04-16-11, 05:08 PM
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Ask yourself whether or not you need another "friend"
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Old 04-16-11, 05:26 PM
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It's been almost 20 years and there's still no chance in ....


Besides, I haven't seen any whales of FB.
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Old 04-16-11, 05:29 PM
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I don't have an ex, but I'd say no. Or I'd set up an alternate account just to be friends with her and the kids.
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Old 04-16-11, 05:41 PM
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No way. She has grown old and ugly, besides still being obnoxious. I, on the other hand, have grown old and ugly, but two or three people think I'm fairly nice.
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I am, but. . Facebook lets you interact with who you WANT to interact with anyway. . . so never the twain shall meet.
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Old 04-16-11, 06:21 PM
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Got a friend request from one of mine a while back.... not just NO! but HELL NO!!!!
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Old 04-16-11, 06:47 PM
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My ex-wife is the mother of my kids, so yes. We've been divorced well over 20 years, so whatever angst should have dissipated. But it's unlikely to happen -- I don't frequent FB, and we don't have the same interests.

As far as the ex-girlfriends, probably not. Those flames went out a long ago.

I am happy with whom I have now.

Machka still chats with several people with whom she had relationships before us. It doesn't bother me in the slightest.
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Old 04-16-11, 07:42 PM
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I don't do FB, but a good friend of mine wanted me to set up an account so I could friend his ex. Yes, he is that weird.
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Old 04-16-11, 07:44 PM
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I've been married for 25 years, so no ex, but I recently tried to be friends with a woman I knew in college. The old issues never completely go away.

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Old 04-16-11, 08:32 PM
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I don't have a Facebook account but I DO have an ex. I have no reason or desire to talk with her.
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Old 04-16-11, 09:30 PM
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Friend an ex? It depends.

Speaking of facebook, anyone been inside their headquarters? They're really good people. I did not meet Mr Zuckerburg but saw him walking around talking to others, wearing his corporate attire----blue jeans and a hoodie. After he finished his discussion he plopped down amidst a group of others and started doing some coding. I look for them to continue to grow for a while. Their "sticky paper ball" that is made from visitors name tags is getting pretty big, too!
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My ex-wife is the mother of my kids, so yes.
+1 My ex will always be in my life because of our daughter. The better we get along, the easier it is for her.

As for ex-boyfriends, I'm still friends with some but not others. I wouldn't accept a friend request from someone I didn't care to keep in contact with.
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Old 04-16-11, 10:04 PM
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Sure why not. There's no hard feelings. I'm still friends with ex-girlfriends.
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so long as theres no active restraining order, why not?
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Old 04-16-11, 11:02 PM
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I did. She sent a request and I accepted. We don't interact much, online or otherwise. It has been 21 years since we divorced and the hostility has faded. Mostly I look when she posts pictures of our son.
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Well, no kids.

My biggest hesitation is that I'm "friends" with other women. Might be a bit embarrassing having her able to tune into this.
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Old 04-17-11, 10:38 AM
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IMHO, this sounds like a recipe for drama. Do you really want her to know all your business?
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Well, first of all, this coming September is my 25th wedding annirversary. However, before my marriage to my 2nd wife, I got a divorse with my first wife. In time, the pain and anger left me and I realized that my ex was the mother of 2 of my 3 children. Furthermore, my ex became the grandma of my grandson this last February. So yes, we became Facebook friends and share photos and quite a bit of other common tidbits. That is all.
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