I have twin daughters (age 27) and they are completely different from one another.

Daughter 1 graduated college with a Masters in Education, moved out, and is now engaged to a real nice guy (wedding date next spring). She is doing really well for herself and is a 3rd grade elementary teacher in northern VA.

Daughter 2 attended same college as daughter 1. She was working on a degree in music (i.e. become a professional musician (French Horn) or take necessary classes to be like daughter 1, but become a music teacher at a school. Sadly and tragically, daughter 2 got mixed up with a disgusting, sleazebag, pothead, boyfriend - who I absolutely can't stand! :mad: So, daughter 2 decided against better judgement to move out and move in with the scumbucket. My wife and I had plenty of arguments and fights with daughter 2, and just said, "Okay...whatever...it's your life..." and let her go. Daughter 2 ended up about $20/k in debt thanks to sleazebag and his drug habit. The most unforgivable thing is that daughter 2 had to drop out of college because of him. They got evicted from their apartment because he wasn't paying his share of the rent (buying weed and coke with the money) and daughter 2's credit rating got trashed as well. Long story short, daughter 2 had to move back home again and start over. She is working at minimum wage in an arts & crafts store, and just won't see the writing on the wall. Believe it or not, as shocking as this sounds... Would you believe that daughter 2 is still involved with the P.O.S. sleazebag?!? :mad: I have done everything I can short of myself ending up in jail (you know what I mean). It's just heartbreaking... It's has driving a wedge between my wife and I as well. My wife has a kinder heart than I do. She sides with daughter 2, and I just want to load some buckshot into my 12ga shotgun and go after him! :eek: :mad: But, I realized that there are better ways of handling things. I calmed down, and as per my avatar picture, I contacted numerous Freemason brothers (many of whom are retired police officers, FBI agents, etc...). I gave them his name, address, phone number, and license plate of his car. I told them, "Do what you wish with this info..." after I told them the whole story just like I did here.

hang in there, don't give up on her

I have a high functioning autistic son who lives with us, is 32 and isn't going anywhere. He has a job and works part time, bowls with me once a week, goes to the library to read. We'll be doing some bike riding together. Enjoy having the company of your kids. The days will come when you wish you could see them more.

There are times I appreciate being alone at home with the wife, but I always miss my kids.

We have a four-bedroom house with no kids officially at home. Our daughter is here for the summer, but not much. She's working and really busy.

But will we sell? My wife says no. With the economy such as it is she wants to maintain a safety net for the kids as long as she can. I'm good with that, plus I really like our house.