How Do You Communicate on Forums vs Face-to-Face
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How Do You Communicate on Forums vs Face-to-Face
When I communicate on the 50+ forums:
When I communicate on the 50+ forums:
I tend to give MORE careful consideration of what I communicate than I would if speaking face-to-face with someone and attempt to be as civil as possible.
I tend to give MORE careful consideration of what I communicate than I would if speaking face-to-face with someone and don’t especially care how my communication is received by others.
I tend to give LESS careful consideration of what I communicate than I would if speaking face-to-face, but still attempt to be as civil as possible.
I tend to give LESS careful consideration of what I communicate than I would if speaking face-to-face, and don’t really care with others think of how I communicate.
My consideration of what I communicate on a forum is about the same as if I were speaking with someone face-to-face.
I’ve never thought about it.
When I communicate on the 50+ forums:
I tend to give MORE careful consideration of what I communicate than I would if speaking face-to-face with someone and attempt to be as civil as possible.
I tend to give MORE careful consideration of what I communicate than I would if speaking face-to-face with someone and don’t especially care how my communication is received by others.
I tend to give LESS careful consideration of what I communicate than I would if speaking face-to-face, but still attempt to be as civil as possible.
I tend to give LESS careful consideration of what I communicate than I would if speaking face-to-face, and don’t really care with others think of how I communicate.
My consideration of what I communicate on a forum is about the same as if I were speaking with someone face-to-face.
I’ve never thought about it.
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I vote for a poll, please


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Ok here is my .02 worth, but I can see this thread getting out of hand.
"I tend to give MORE careful consideration of what I communicate than I would if speaking face-to-face with someone and attempt to be as civil as possible."
This is pretty much what I follow for any online communications (work or otherwise).
A little history of me for those who might be interested.
I've been "online" in some form since around 1983. Ran a two node BBS using Fidonet and echomail from about 1985-1993, did a ton of usenet, archie, veronica, gopher on the Internet back in the early days. Have been moderators for many forums in the past....a lot more difficult than one thinks.
Here is a link to some history for fidonet.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/FidoNet
Learned it is best to just "walk away" from flame wars, not worth it.
And, one last thing, if you think "big brother" or others watching activities online is a new thing you are naive...
Maybe back on topic: Bikeforums is an excellent place for online sharing of information about cycling and I enjoy the forums.
"I tend to give MORE careful consideration of what I communicate than I would if speaking face-to-face with someone and attempt to be as civil as possible."
This is pretty much what I follow for any online communications (work or otherwise).
A little history of me for those who might be interested.
I've been "online" in some form since around 1983. Ran a two node BBS using Fidonet and echomail from about 1985-1993, did a ton of usenet, archie, veronica, gopher on the Internet back in the early days. Have been moderators for many forums in the past....a lot more difficult than one thinks.
Here is a link to some history for fidonet.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/FidoNet
Learned it is best to just "walk away" from flame wars, not worth it.
And, one last thing, if you think "big brother" or others watching activities online is a new thing you are naive...
Maybe back on topic: Bikeforums is an excellent place for online sharing of information about cycling and I enjoy the forums.

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People have told me I'm pretty much the same ... as insufferable in person as I am on line.
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I co-own a pretty large forum dedicated to progressive music: https://www.progressiveears.org ... I've been on it for 11 years - and decided from the get-go to "play nice".
Lucky - because I've since met several hundred of the forum members face-to-face, and have become "real-world" friends with many of them. (In fact - just on Wed. night, on a business trip to Boston, I met 2 forum members for the first time.)
So it's definitely worth being decent on the forums, because if you hang out here long enough you will probably end up meeting - or riding with - many of your virtual friends.
On the other hand - we had a member (one of several who we had to ban) who was an unbelievable troll. He pitched up at a rock festival one year thinking that no one would know who he was. He was friendly and came across as "mister-nice-guy". Then - someone figured out who he was and called him out, and the guy was so embarrassed that he left the event a day early.
Lucky - because I've since met several hundred of the forum members face-to-face, and have become "real-world" friends with many of them. (In fact - just on Wed. night, on a business trip to Boston, I met 2 forum members for the first time.)
So it's definitely worth being decent on the forums, because if you hang out here long enough you will probably end up meeting - or riding with - many of your virtual friends.
On the other hand - we had a member (one of several who we had to ban) who was an unbelievable troll. He pitched up at a rock festival one year thinking that no one would know who he was. He was friendly and came across as "mister-nice-guy". Then - someone figured out who he was and called him out, and the guy was so embarrassed that he left the event a day early.

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I try to alway re-read my post to make sure i haven't said anything out of context or to insult anybody... Sometimes i will be firm and even appologize ...Like i do in face to face conversations...Worth it in my opinion...

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I don't have to edit my spelling when face to face!
I "try" to be more concise, since words are all we have and you can't use tone, inferences etc. to get your point across. I'm sure I'm more blunt.
I "try" to be more concise, since words are all we have and you can't use tone, inferences etc. to get your point across. I'm sure I'm more blunt.

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I don't have to edit my spelling when face to face!
When the customer is in the Shop, i have to speak of what is in stock, or able to be ordered from the
vendors we have..
i seem to need to ground people that because it's on the web, it may be something that has no local seller.
so the practicality should take over..

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This sub-forum:
https://www.bikeforums.net/forumdispl...1-Road-Cycling
i.e. www bikeforums.net/forumdisplay.php/41-Road-Cycling
https://www.bikeforums.net/forumdispl...1-Road-Cycling
i.e. www bikeforums.net/forumdisplay.php/41-Road-Cycling

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Is there a reason to be different?
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I try to remain as respectful on the forums as in person. I do notice that when on the forums, some folks seem nastier than in person. Probably due to their distance from the others.

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I THINK I'm about the same.
We'll find out for sure next weekend when I meet some 50+ers at the Katy Trail Social.
We'll find out for sure next weekend when I meet some 50+ers at the Katy Trail Social.

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Is there a cultural difference in how folks respond? I.e., is there more seriousness about posting from those in some countries or locations? Or vice versa? Or other differences?
As to me, I haven't a clue if I am different or similar. As Popeye says:
And I yam what I yam and I yam what I yam that I yam / And I gotta lotta muscle and I only gots one eye / And I never hurts nobody and I'll never tell a lie / Top to me bottom and bottom to me top / That's the way it is 'til the day that I drop, what am I / I yam what I yam
As to me, I haven't a clue if I am different or similar. As Popeye says:
And I yam what I yam and I yam what I yam that I yam / And I gotta lotta muscle and I only gots one eye / And I never hurts nobody and I'll never tell a lie / Top to me bottom and bottom to me top / That's the way it is 'til the day that I drop, what am I / I yam what I yam
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The problem with internet forums is that unlike face to face there is no means of transferring, for lack of better term, the vibes and flow of a conversation and personal interaction. Thus internet conversations get so ugly, so fast unlike with a flesh and blood human soul in front of you.
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I try not to talk trash that I wouldn't do face to face. I'm not perfect that way but am much more impressed by in-your-face trash talk in the street than the internet kind and I don't do much of that either.
