sm266

It's genetic. His Dad has the same body type and structure. He's not bulimic or anorexic. We've been together 5 years, lived together 1 and I've noticed no behaviors relating to an ED. His doctor isn't alarmed and he's healthy, if not really thin.

Why is it that everyone wants a naturally healthy, but incredibly thin person to have an ED?

SSP

Well, if his doc says he's OK and he's not hurling his meals, then perhaps you can write it off to genetics.

As for the assumption of an eating disorder...that's something he's just going to have to live with unless he gains some weight because statistically most folks at that height and weight do have ED. Of course, there are always exceptions to the averages so perhaps he's just a statistical outlier.

sm266

I do have to admit that I'm a little jealous of him, though. Although, I do have an easier time putting on muscle.

Vitamin X

Regardless of whether your BF is healthy, everyone and there dog would look at him walking down the street and think he was anorexic. 6'2 @135lbs would have the look of a catwalk supermodel that lives off water & cigarettes.

Have you seen Bruce Lee's physique. He was around 140lbs @5'7. Your BF is around 6 inches taller and 5lbs lighter. Go and watch Enter The Dragon, look how god damn skinny he is. Your BF puts Lee's physique to shame in terms of bodyweight.

If anyone in my family had that look, I'd be putting them on substantial weight gainers, buying him a set of weights and putting cardio on the back burner for a while.

Do not be jealous of his physique. It's so far away pound 4 pound what woman think to be the dream body. You couldn't get any further away. sm266, you are female aren't you, just that not many women like putting on too much muscle.

Guys do not like girls to have alot if any muscle mass...

Tell your boyfriend to read the article in this link, https://t-mag.com/nation_articles/176skin.html titled The Skinny Bastard Diet.

The Rob

Uh, I have a suspicion that the above is not exactly a motivating factor for a healthy, active woman. In fact, this seems only a step or two away from that 'barefoot, pregnant, in the kitchen' rubbish.

sm266, if you and your boyfriend feel well and are happy, forget the charts and graphs.

Vitamin X

It isn't really, but then again, weights don't really make one healthy. The biggest myth in sport is bodybuilders believing there in good shape.

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sm266

I'm healthy, and so is my BF. Yes, he's thin, so what? He's healthy, and he's beautiful. He's a great mountain biker, rock climber, and I'll soon have him in a kayak. He's more active than many of the "gym rats" I know.

Bruce Lee is a badass. Straight up badass, and rock hard muscular. The difference is being lean, and having a lean practical body. You don't have to have a lot of muscle to be "healthy." That's a ridiculous notion. I'd say Bruce Lee was an outstanding athlete who was beyond healthy.

Although, men don't like women who have been taking testerone supplements to "bulk" up, but men LOVE a shapely women. Yes, sweetie, I'm muscular, but I've also got more curves than a fine Italian Sportscar. Plus, I can also climb my @ss off. Many people don't realize that the way a woman sculpts "shape" onto her body is through lifting heavy weights and training like an athlete.
That's what gives females the sexy back, shoulders, and arms for low cut dresses, the nice quads for shorts, and the nice glutes for everything else.

Not to mention the squats help my racing career. Marla Streb and Alison Dunlap are both solid muscular women, who I consider sexy. Not to mention strong and confident. Tinker Juarez is one of the best endurance, xc, and bmx racer of our time, and he's thin.

I'm not particularly worried about what guys like, anyway. Because the man that wants to be with me will appreciate a woman who is strong and sexy.

The Rob

'Nuff said!

Turbonium

being heathy is all realative, how much fat you have on your stomach doesn't show how healthy you are. BUT too much fat can be result of being unhealthy.

Vitamin X

I understand more than anyone that you don't have to have a lot of muscle to be healthy. In fact, if you compare Bruce Lee to a Bodybuilder, then he didn't have much muscle mass at all. Pound 4 Pound, maybe...

When Bruce Lee was nearing the end of filming Enter The Dragon, he actually admitted to feeling unhealthy. It was put down to his Body fat %, bodyweight & overtraining. There are alot of people that believe that is how Bruce Lee died. He was around 135-140lbs@ 5'7-5'8 and he was so skinny, I couldn't imagine how skinny your BF is.

All women have curves, lol. If a woman is wearing a tight pair of black leggins, nice top, then there showing off there curves, most of them don't lift heavy weights to achieve that look though.

As for the ferrari, I will take the sportscar anyday . You can pick women up for free, the Ferrari costs �500,000.

A woman who has well developed quads wearing shorts is enough to scare most men off. Glutes & Abs Allllllllll day. There isn't many better sites on earth watching a woman do abdominal curls or seeing a woman with nice glutes, but upperbody, forget about it, believe me.

OK, bump.

But when a woman has more strength to throw there boyfriends around the bedroom, when it should be the other way round , something is slightly wrong. If my GF was 6'2@ 135, I'd be scared of snapping her in half...

sm266

By Vitamin x- You're wrong.
Just training the lower body and core and not training the upper body leads to imbalances and being misproportioned.

Speaking of well developed quads in shorts, the male cyclists I know, love my legs. I ride mountain bikes so they're strong, toned, developed, and scraped up with scars.

Of course I can't tell you what to find attractive, so this is kind of pointless. My ultimate point is that a person can be healthy and thin simultaneously, just as a person can be "overweight" and healthy at the same time.

Vitamin X

[QUOTE=sm266]Ohh, very true, especially when where talking about athletes, I know that more than anyone. Your only as strong as your weakest muscle. I was generally talking about the average woman. All she needs to please any guy is nice glutes and maybe abs, but a muscular upperbody with quadraceps is a complete no no... A woman having broad shoulders, lol...

I guess whatever floats there boat. But I buy Mens Health magazine each month and from what I read, a woman who is muscular is a top 3 turnoff behind women who have moustaches, lol.

Yes but there are lines. Read that article from T-mag...

Your not going to convince many people that someone who is 135lbs @6'2 is healthy regardless of what your GP says. What would happen if he dropped down to 128lbs???... There wouldn't be anyone alive including supermodels at his height under that weight pound 4 pound.

If he came to live with me, I'd put a few lbs on him. Little cardio, more weights, out with the rabbit food in with the 10x 1000 calorie extra thick chocolate weightgainer shakes a day, chicken, turkey, fish, spaghetti Bolognaise more weights and within 1 month you wouldn't recognise him.

Phatman

I think that you are thinking of the wrong thing, vitamin x. A manly muscular woman is a turn off. but women don't get manly looking unless they take steroids. When women lift weights, they tend to get the long, lean quads that look so good in shorts. instead of having bony shoulders, women who lift have more toned shoulders, but they will never get the broad shouldered look of a weight-lifter.

As for the 6'2" 135 guy, I think that that he just is genetically skinny. If you look at most endurance athletes, they are skinny, and for the most part, can't help it. A friend of mine from track is about 6'2" or 6'1" and about 140, and yea, he looks skinny, but he eats more then I do, and I'm 6'1 180!

bombusben

I think the take home message here is: If you judge someones lack of fitness, health, sexyness etc. based upon their height, weight, body mass index you look like an @ss.
People come in lots of shapes and sizes, which are great for different activities. I'm naturally tall and thin, (6'4" 145lbs) which works great- for me, my gf, for knocking off a scary fast 26.2 mile run, not to mention the local grocery store owner whose kid I am single handedly putting thru school.

closereveryday

Good point, I'm 35, 6'2" and 140. I havent been sick since 1992 (flu). I can't gain or lose weight because it's ALL GENETICS, very hard for people to understand.

I have no upper body presence, my arms are skinny but I have strong legs, I climb hills but can't race (don't have the stamina, smaller lungs )

Portis

I'm 6'2" and 155 lbs. I was pushing 200lbs when I started a low fat diet and exercise almost 1 year ago. I think the key is getting to where your body is supposed to be. I was around 150 lbs in high school 15 + years ago. That was fresh out of puberty and while leading an athletic lifestyle.

This doesn't mean that everyone is ok if they reach there high school weight. Some people were obviously overweight in high school. One thing I find interesting is watching channels like Discovery and TLC on TV. Whenever they visit these "primitive" tribes you very rarely see obese people. Everyone is lean and mean. Coincidence? I doubt it. They still have to work very hard physically to exist and food is available but not to the degree it is here in this obese country.

Some people were meant to be bigger than others. Some animals are meant to be bigger than others. However nothing was meant to be obese. There are no obese Lions or Tigers in the Wild. They simply would not survive. I for one think it is good that people are becoming obsessed with being healthy which often means skinny. It is sad to go to the local WalMart or Mall and see all of these people that have eaten and lazed themselves into disease, immobility, and unattractiveness.

I haven't eaten one piece of fried food for 11 1/2 months. I haven't entered one fast food restaurant. I have lost nearly 40 lbs. I also haven't missed any of the junk food. Compared with quitting smoking, which i did years ago, quitting fatty foods was a breeze. The problem is most overweight people have 0, none, not an ounce of will power. That is why they are typically overweight.

The Van

I would have to disagree with what you are saying. While the BMI is useful in a general sense, it doesn't take into account a lot of factors that contribute to a persons "ideal" weight.

When I first saw the title of this thread I thought it was a joke. I checked my BMI and it is 19.1(6'1" and 145lbs). Do I think I am on the unhealthy side.....no. I have been a track distance runner for most of my life and recently got into biking. You would be hard pressed to find any distance runners with BMIs much higher then mine, and believe me they are all very healthy and in shape. It is just the way distance runners (and others) are built. I don't starve myself, I eat whatever I want, whenever I want. I am not trying to brag, it just my genetics. I do watch the types of food I eat, but this is more from a training standpoint.

SSP

In my admittedly limited experience, nearly all of the highly competitive athletes I've met (runners, cyclists, triathletes) have had, in my opinion, some form of "eating disorder". But, it's an eating disorder that makes sense from a competitive perspective. You simply cannot be competitive in those sports unless you are very, very thin. Unlike anorexics, however, thinness is not the goal...it's just a requirement to be successful in competition.

I've also heard other athletes say "I eat whatever I want", but then seen them rinsing their cottage cheese to reduce the fat content . I think it's all part of the athletic lifestyle, and its obsession with fitness and thinness, and for the most part there's nothing wrong with it.

However, I've also heard plenty of stories of both women and men finding out in their 30's that they have the brittle bones of an 80-year-old, due to keeping their body fat so low for so long. And, we've all heard how often pro cyclists and runners get sick due to diminished immune systems from overtraining and low body fat.

This is a fascinating subject, and if anyone else has links to studies on competitive athletes and eating disorders, I'd appreciate seeing them.

bombusben

I guess I just have a Mendelian 'eating disorder'