And you expect the laundry to be done and a hot bath ready, followed by a hot supper.;) :D

good women are hard to find

if you have one, hold on

if you have a crummy woman...

well, it sucks to be you

She needs to come up with the reasons she is so negative on you maintaining good health. Could it be that she is not in control during your rides? You gotta straighten this up my man.

troll sensor is on amber.

Seriously, it's not about the bike! See a counselor because this will not go away until it's addressed.

Yeah, my wife is a ballbuster! Here she is busting my balls on the trail. Riding her heavy steel '84 Bianchi cause there was a threat of rain and she didn't want to get her CF TREK dirty! Averaged 17.6 for the 42 mile ride. On her CF, she does 18.1 at best. 2600 miles so far this year. A ballbuster if you ask me!:D

When the wifey is involved, it's so much better. More trips to the bike stores!


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The OP doesn't post much on BF, but one relevant earlier post from 2004 indicated he and his wife were both avid roadies but were having trouble buying a tandem as they both wanted to be captain.

Try getting her a bike and take her with you.

If that doesn't work... I'm with free_pizza.

I had a wife like that about 10 years ago...she was a complete control freak with a fat couch potato *ss, and a quick temper to boot.

About 15 years ago I bought a low-end mountain bike to help me to quit smoking and to lose some weight. Over the next 5 years I started to ride more and more. As I got fitter and slimmer, she seemed to resent me and the bike more and more (she had gained at least 20 lbs since we were first married).

Finally, I made the decision to leave. It was a tough call as we had two young kids. But, the constant daily tension in the household was just suffocating all of us.

Leaving the marriage was the best decision I've ever made...life since then has been great. There's much less tension in my life, I ride 5,000 miles per year (including a yearly week long trip to Colorado), and my sex life has never been better :D.

I'm not saying it's easy, or for everyone, and I would recommend counseling (both jointly and solo), but leaving a bad marriage can be the right thing to do. You've only got one life...no sense living it with a ball-buster.

Boy, good thing we have both sides of the story to make a clear, impartial decision.

Amen. Sorry to hear about the kids but you're right.

one of two scenarios possible.

1. This guy does nothing in the relationship and doesn't show his wife deserved attention, so she naturally resents his activities.

2. He needs to find his balls - they're likely in the back of the refrigerator behind the tofu. sack up, soy boy!

Not sure if you were referring to my post, but :

1) My ex mother in law is still my friend, and has admitted to me that her daughter "has an anger problem", and "didn't treat me very well".

2) My son's first sentence was "Mommy angry". :(

Seconded.. All in favor.....

Cut through all the BS and give her the bottom line - riding is exercise and exercise will keep you healthier and alive longer. Unless of course, she's wanting to cash in on your life insurance at a young age. :eek:

Aye...(who would bring their marrige issues to a forum?)

Sounds like the way my wife started to turn out, until I packed my clothes and started to leave one day, now things are better.
It's strange how a person will treat their SO in ways worse than they'd treat a total stranger. I will take that from no one, period.

This seems almost more like a Foo issue. My SO's issues with me cycling are the same as with me computer-gaming, as with most anything else I do that doesn't involve her: money. I can't spend a cent on cycling without her jumping my case. On the other hand up to the limit of maybe an overnight tour, she could care less how much time I spend cycling.

My wife wastes quite a bit of money on junk food, pop, and other worthless items while I scrounge for the occasional bike item that costs significantly less than what she spends. If she complained it would be an awful double standard.
Plus, she enjoys having a fit husband.
I still have yet to convince her that a $2500 bike is a good purchase for me. :p
No complaints from anyone in my family including my wife related to my cycling. I ride 3 hrs a day on average. Seperation is a good thing at times, one needs their space. That and I am very cranky if I can not ride. On occasion I have heard her tell me to get out of the house and ride. What a woman. :)

I'm sure the milkman appreciates her too...and the fact that she gets rid of you before he comes by! :eek:

Actually there is some good advice above...now I'm here :)

(sigh) the result of poor training early on...this is why Lassie was a boy.
I have simular problems but things somehow have worked out for 12 years.
In my "typical male" case I'm a lazy old fart and take off when I should be fixing the
plumbing, or some other gawd awful honey dew crap. Here are some of my techniques;

Procrastinaste- It's a beatiful day out so you don't want to waste it...you
can do the honey dew crap when it's dark (yeah right :) )

Grovel- This rarely works, but worth a try when all else fails.

Pout- Go in the bedroom, turn off all the lights and lay down....sigh loudly and
often.

Escape- If the wife leaves, theres your chance...gone for hours..."forget" the cell phone.

Bargain- If I can go I'll do ______________. Of course you'll be too tired when you get back.

Blame it on your friends..."He made me go, I didn't want to but he forced me "

Throw a fit- Works suprisingly well sometimes...hopefully your stuff won't be in the
front yard when you get back.

Make an excuse- "I had to go get dog snacks...they were out of beggin strips at the store
so I had to go allllll the way to the next town."

Drive her nuts- annoy her till she kicks you out.


diversion- Someone somewhere has an emergency...you have to go help.

Threaten to kill yourself- "I guess I should just hang myself from the rafters"
but I'm guessing you've tried this already.

Drink heavily- You need a new hobby to replace your bike riding...

Support group- Now that your an alcoholic you "need to go to 12 step meetings" (heh)

Ok now...You know what to do....now go lick her boots or something :)

Get a noisy trainer and hook it up to your bike in the livingroom, next to the TV.

Next time she sits down to watch her favorite show, ask to go out for a ride. If she balks, just stay home and ride on your trainer.

Soon, she'll be begging you to go and ride outside.

BRILLIANT!

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Either that, or hookers.