It sounds like a tolerance issue, with the stem at the high end of the size range, and the steerer at the low end. Did you use a caliper to check the actual diameters of the steerer and stem. If it turns out to be only a few thousandths you can sand it or use some lapping compound, to work the stem in up to the desired depth, then pull and clean.
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