Respect is earned, not given.

Some cyclists behave in a way that is respected, assertively yet politely.

Those who ride submissively or with desregard for the vehicular rules of the road are typically not respected. These cyclists are also often oblivious to the role their own behavior (including body language and lateral lane position selection) plays with respect to the disrespect that they experience.

Being obsessed with "staying out of the way" of motorists to such an extent that one is willing to risk his life (doored cyclists have been killed) to do so is typical submissive cycling behavior that is not conducive to earning respect from motorists.

I commute every day on a 45 mph 6 lane arterial with curbside parking on which motorists often drive 50-60 mph, while I'm doing 15ish in the center of the outside lane (if I ride just outside of the door zone, faster traffic is tempted to squeeze in next to me to my left). I watch faster traffic approach me from behind in my rear-view mirror. They see me and try to merge left, but sometimes cannot and are forced to slow down. My body language and lane position communicate quite clearly that this is the appropriate place for me to ride, and I'm not budging. They respect that. This is confirmed by drivers who know me and see me riding on their way to work (including my wife). I think most cyclists don't realize how normal it looks, and how acceptable it is, for a cyclist to ride this way.