This is my pain!

My daughter moved out of the house to be on her own at the age of 19 (she's 41). She got herself a really good job making very good money. She got married, has three great boys and lives in a hugh house (about 10 miles away) and has never looked back. When her husband was transferred back to Tampa from Kentucky in the middle of the housing boom, houses were difficult to find so we took them in for a few months until they were able to find the house they now live in. I have no problem with that and would do it as many times as I have to. Helping out your children during rough or hard times is what a parent does.

On the other hand, my son has the attitude that we, as parents, are obligated to raising him and providing for him if he has problems finding a job and a place to live. That attitude just doesn't fly with me and I refuse to enable him. Mother's, on the other hand, don't seem to see it that way and it takes them time before they get tired of dishing out money to keep a child supported that should be supporting themselves. This is one negative thing about having individual financial accounts. I can't really tell her what to do with her money. I have put my foot down and told him that as long as he is living here for free, he will work for his keep. Neither my wife or I have done anything around the house since he has been here.