The amount of $ required to move out on your own is far different than when I was young. In my part of the world rent requires not just a job, but a good paying job. Having said all that my wife and I always told our grown children they were welcome to move back any time, our home is still their home. Both have made it very well on their own and out earn both my wife and I!
A slight twist, my oldest wants us to move in with her and her family, very sweet of of her. My wife and I feel very lucky with our two kids.
When my dad kicked me out at 21 it was into an environment where good paying factory jobs were still available, and I got one of them.
Originally Posted by
tarwheel
My daughter moved back home after graduating from college, while she attends law school. We paid for her undergraduate education in total, but told her she would have to borrow money and/or get scholarships for grad school. However, to help out, we told her she could live at home if she went to the law school in our town. She got a scholarship at the local law school, so she is not having to borrow too much money while living at home. I am more than glad to help her out in that way, and we are much better off financially than if we were paying for her tuition and books. She is also learning some responsibility by paying for law school costs, and it has actually motivated her to get more scholarship money. She is ranked #1 in her class after two years, so I feel that it's been a good compromise.
That said, it has been an adjustment with my daughter back home -- more so for my wife than me. My wife does not get along as well with our daughter as me, and she is much less tolerant of any disruptions due to dirty dishes, clutter, TV watching, etc. Things will be easier for us once my daughter starts working and gets her own apartment or home, but I am truly glad that decided to move back home for a while.
Wife’s daughter went into hock to get an undergraduate degree that is of little use without a graduate degree. I got an education at the same State University she attended and amassed less than a quarter of the debt doing it. (California started abandoning funding its best in the nation public universities shortly after I finished.) There are not as many good jobs available now, as were available to me. Fortunately, she and my wife are best friends, and have always been close. Bio-dad makes more than I do, and helps a little, though I wish it were more.