Fwiw i ride on 32h 2x a23s, im 165 lbs and i carry 30 pounds of **** on me for 22 miles a day on a warzone of roads that im sure are similar to yours

After around 1200 miles my front wheel only needed truing once, the real problem is flats and that will happen regardless of your rim choice

unless youre getting a 12h radial carbon wheel youll be fine, but a heavy rim will make your life a little more difficult