After reading Tigat's posts about his Project One Trek, I'd love to be able to buy one of them. A total custom build and your choice of paint jobs. Too bad the second dealer was such a poor excuse for a business owner, the first guy sounds a lot like our LBS owners, here. I've stopped by just intending to buy something I needed, and I walked out 1-2 hours later. When I bought my CAAD10, I got there at closing time, not realizing when they closed. No problems at all, Tom and the mechanic spent all the time necessary to let me test out bikes, fit me properly, and get everything dialed in properly.
If you decide to use the first shop and to get a P1, I think you'll be very happy with everything. Hope to see some pictures of an N+1 from you shortly.
Bill