Yeah -- I've gone through similar decisions or choices. Scratches bug me too. Watches, sunglasses, phones, windshields, dinnerware, wine glasses, optics, reading glasses, rings.... Maybe some people notice it more than others.

I have a carbon frame that I am considering selling, largely over this issue. I can't stand the look of scratched up carbon. Scratches happen for many people, even careful ones. Some people might get defensive about carbon. I don't. I'd like to find a scratch resistant coating, though. Maybe there is something. They're made for some other items....

I got a white tungsten ring (with hardness=sapphire) that a jeweler thought was white gold at first, until she went to polish it and noticed there weren't any scratches.... I love things that hold up like that.