I always give the same advice. Listen to your loved ones and then make up your own damned mind. If I told my wife I was selling her bike she'd very quickly let me know she was thinking of selling my car and if I sold her bike against her wishes very soon we'd be selling the house as community property. I used to be a full time hang glider pilot and tend to take risks she would never consider but I don't make her rules and she doesn't make mine. Any counseling from me includes "it's your life and your decision".