Don't have that problem. But then, I've never worn "cycling specific" kit. A decent wicking t-shirt and gym shorts over bike underwear with a chamois are the usual. Guess maybe because I rode nothing but a mtn.bike long before owning a road bike. Sorry, I know better than to offer advice on how someone might deal with their wife--it's not always easy dealing with one's own wife!! EDIT--maybe I should have added that my wife is not one who pays a lot of attention to what people think. And she likes riding--in fact, when we were mtn.biking frequently, she was fearless, and one hell of a rider over rock gardens. Yeah, I'm damn lucky!!