It's black and white if you choose one without the other. I'm not saying you do, I'm saying you can't. Internally, people are defined greatly by the way they spend their time & their experiences, and a great deal of that time is spent doing something for income, or as I'd put it, making their contribution.

Here try this;

I'll say "I'm a bike messenger"

Now what do you think of that? Be honest. I just want to see what you think. It's not your fault, the cat woke me up. Other people explained it too, but you insist that you're doing it differently and I'm just curious now.