Originally Posted by
Retro Grouch
What do you think they owe you?
The bottom line is all of those other riders are doing this for the fun of it. If a new rider, who looks like they're not going to fit into the group, shows up it puts them in a difficult position:
1. They can pretend that everything's OK and ride-on as they would otherwise. The problem with this it makes me (for one) feel bad.
2. They can ride at the slowest rider's pace. That's not any fun.
3. They can designate a "baby sitter" to keep pace with the slow rider or take turns being the "baby sitter".
What do you expect from them?
Truthfully, I'd expect a little honesty right up front. If the group had reservations, then state them.
Options:
1) Sorry, our group has decided we are "full". Of course, if you opt to do this, stop advertising your ride.
2) We are sorry, but our group is "invitation only" and then, only after a member rides with you a while to verify your SAFETY practices are sufficient. Nothing against you, but we use advanced techniques and will be trusting you with our safety, like you will be trusting us with yours. We can arrange for a member to join you for a 20 mile ride very soon.
3) First time riders stay at the rear on day 1 unless invited to move up. You don't get dropped, you're in.