Originally Posted by
recumelectric
shundaroni,
I just don't even know what to tell you, other than thanks for sharing your own experience. Mine has a been a little different than what you may be envisioning. BF and I have gone through multiple changes in the time we have been together. I have been in better shape than him for several years at at a stretch. Didn't really change my attitude about him before.
Aside from the occasional amusement obtained by flirting with guys (which is all going to fade with age and time anyway), I'm not really interested. There are just too many weird and awful people out there, once you get to know them deeply. I've got a guy that I know pretty darn well, and I know him to be a good guy, who understands how my mind works and shares alot beliefs and values with me. In fact, he is the only guy I've ever known who could understand how my mind works. In other words, I'm not interested in "trading him in."
...But that's not gonna stop a bunch of strangers from trying to "fix" me, is it?
When it comes to relationships, there are no "One Size Fits All" answers.
But many of us have been in relationships with partners who did not share our passion for fitness and healthy lifestyles...and many of us have found that that can be a signficant challenge to maintaining a relationship.
Jack LaLane once said that more marriages break up due to differences in energy levels than any other single reason. In my own case, the breakup of my first (and only) marriage was partly due to the fact that I had started to get "healthy and fit" and she had zero interest in that.
So don't be surprised if folks make suggestions about "trading in", when you post a thread with the provocative title "My boyfriend is a
wimp".
Men have a need to be appreciated for their strength - if you think he's a wimp (even if you don't call him a wimp), it will eventually have a detrimental effect on your relationship.