You will notice a difference in beefiness between Spin Doctor (which are house-branded VAR tools) and Park tools. Park cone wrenches are thicker stock in the handle, etc. I have the Spin Doctor pro set, which I've used A LOT (rebuilt many old bikes). I like it, and have yet to have any major breakdowns.
Truing stand-wise, it depends how much you're going to use it. I have the Minoura el-cheapo stand. Wish I had the Park TS2; probably will never shell out for it. Minoura works well enough.