Thanks for all the responses so far. To answer some questions, my wirst/ankle weakness is a genetic thing and not caused by biking or my sports. I've studied Aikido for the past 12 years, but I am on idefinate hiatus at the moment when I accepted a job as a wrestling coach.
I definately can relate to saddles being important to the ride, and have some idea what makes me comfortable there - mostly I'm simply trying to minimize shock/fatigue to my wrists, so I suppose that more than anything else, I'm looking for bike geometry that gives me less of a steep angle than the majority of road bikes. I definately plan to get good gloves and gel grips. If a touring bike is a good start, I'll give it a shot, although I'm not really needing to put much accessories on it. Mostly the idea is to race triathlons with it.
I definately need to find a good bike shop. The one I bought my last bike from was horrible in the fitting and model slection department.
Thanks for the welcome. I'll be spending some serious time here!