Originally Posted by jamawani

Beg your pardon -
Erick stated, "I think leaving someone out at 9:30pm is a bit harsh."

That is pretty, damn judgmental as well as presumptuous.
Erick didn't have to assume any risk or make any personal accommodations.
So what do I do - hang around with my thumb up my whatever until they decide to show up?
Or do I just tell them where I live and leave the door open?

It's all fine and good to be left/liberal - And BTW I was in Birmingham in the 1960s, worked to free the Wilmington 10, and organized for textile workers' rights in the Carolinas - so I think I have a few progressive bonafides, thank you very much.

But when people call the day before when I have asked in the website for two to three days notice - then change their mind and put it off for a day - meanwhile, I continue to say, "Yes" even though I have a previous engagement - then fib about when they started and where they are even though I have asked them to arrive before 7:00 - then not even bother to inform me that they will be way late - - right.

Then, yes, I think I am perfectly in my rights to say, "No, thank you."
And people who are so quick to judge those who offer genuine hospitality only add to the negative perception of this process.

As I said before, it's called "courtesy" and these young women had none.