I think that I would be annoyed if I had had the experience described by jamawani, posted it here, and then had others describe my behavior as "harsh". That particular word indicates judgment and strong disapproval. If someone disagrees with jamawani's decision, I think that could be conveyed in a manner which is less "harsh". And I believe it was useful for this warm showers experience to have been raised here.

Even if those 2 cyclists had followed all of the rules as well as kept their word to him, I feel it would be perfectly acceptable for jamawani or any other host to change their mind when the cyclists finally showed up at his door if something didn't feel right. Like jamawani, I have been on both ends of this, having hosted people via warmshowers and other means, and having been hosted. Like jamawani, I once escaped from a life-threatening situation while touring from someone who offered me "hospitality". And as I previously described, I once had a cyclist I hosted essentially steal from me by furtively making international phone calls from my home. Those two experiences are undoubtedly a part of me when I am making decisions about who may sleep in my home, and where I sleep outside of my home.

Each of us gets to decide who we will allow to stay in our homes, and what the rules are of that stay. jamawani's potential guests broke the rules (perfectly reasonable rules IMO), and jamawani made his decision accordingly. I do not think it is fair for any of us to pass judgment on him. Hopefully, those two women learned a lesson and won't treat potential future hosts in such a discourteous and cavalier manner.