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Old 10-26-23, 05:35 PM
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Irritating Bickering

The back and forth bickering between some posters, members or not, has gotten a bit ridiculous. It seems to me, until serious name calling and on line harassment occurs, the mods seem to be hesitant to address the issue. In the meantime, I believe that behavior harms the Forums and the members. I understand this is a public forum, people have egos and opinions they want to state, but the childish arguing is really stale. People that participate in this type of behavior are just showing their self-centeredness, and their own insecurities. This is all just my opinion.
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New here? In my decades on BF I've found the volunteer mods to be fair & reasonable. Herding cats on multiple sub forums with posters worldwide, varying experience/knowledge, and personalities is not an easy gig. Somehow the forum survives.
In almost 20 years here I have no one on ignore, and just scroll on by rather than take umbrage
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I find it mildly entertaining, but it does seem that the same couple of guys have a need to be right, even when they are wrong...
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Originally Posted by wheelreason
I find it mildly entertaining, but it does seem that the same couple of guys have a need to be right, even when they are wrong...
...so basically my drunk ex father-in-law ? If I could endure him in person, tuning these guys out on the internet should be a snap. It would be nicer here if I could look forward to a holiday dinner, though.
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Originally Posted by dedhed
In almost 20 years here I have no one on ignore, and just scroll on by rather than take umbrage
...pro tip on the ignore function: the scrolling goes much quicker if you have two or three people in a thread on ignore.
I am old, and if I can save a few seconds here and there, I can spend it contemplating my own mortality.
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Originally Posted by 3alarmer
...pro tip on the ignore function: the scrolling goes much quicker if you have two or three people in a thread on ignore.
I am old, and if I can save a few seconds here and there, I can spend it contemplating my own mortality.
I'm not as old as you (yet) so have the time. I suppose if I posted in P&R (or the 41) instead of just visiting, it might be different.
I'd be curious to see what the numbers on ignore to eventually banned are.
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Originally Posted by delbiker1
I understand this is a public forum, people have egos and opinions they want to state, but the childish arguing is really stale. People that participate in this type of behavior are just showing their self-centeredness, and their own insecurities.
There's another public forum I used to spend a lot of time perusing, but after a time the same characters, repeatedly beating the same horse time & again, soured my interest. I don't go there much anymore.

Seems to be a common phenom with 'public' venues these days (why I dropped F*book a few years back) once the constant display of human frailty becomes too apparent. My biggest gripe isn't the 'public' stuff itself, it's when this becomes a constant in so-called news media that should instead be free of bias.

This Internet thing is as much a tool now as it is a weapon.
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Old 10-27-23, 05:34 AM
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Maybe there is a baseline level of bickering, but I have not seen much over the line lately. Notice no bans in over two months! That could be a record around here.
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Originally Posted by datlas
Maybe there is a baseline level of bickering, but I have not seen much over the line lately. Notice no bans in over two months! That could be a record around here.
Should I try to reverse that trend?
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Old 10-27-23, 07:43 AM
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Originally Posted by datlas
Maybe there is a baseline level of bickering, but I have not seen much over the line lately. Notice no bans in over two months! That could be a record around here.
The banned list is only updated randomly.
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Old 10-27-23, 07:45 AM
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I belong to another bicycle forum where this zero bickering, insulting, negativity, politics, alcohol talk, religion.... it's refreshing. Just bikes, occasionally other hobbies, and only positivity.
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Yep, I belong to another, and the ongoing bickering and harassment between individuals does not happen. There are disagreements, but I have yet to see them deteriorate to the child like level. Why that is, I cannot say.
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Originally Posted by delbiker1
Yep, I belong to another, and the ongoing bickering and harassment between individuals does not happen. There are disagreements, but I have yet to see them deteriorate to the child like level. Why that is, I cannot say.
Is it a relatively small forum?

Keep in mind that this is the self-proclaimed “leading online discussion site for avid cyclists”.

ACA’s forum is pretty civil, although it has its share of what appear to be would-be spammers every now and then. A few “eccentrics” as well. But the activity is minimal compared to BF.

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Originally Posted by dedhed
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I'd be curious to see what the numbers on ignore to eventually banned are.
...on my curated ignore list of something just over 50 users, six of them are banned, and another 7 haven't posted in over a year.
The rest of them are still here, happily going about their business irritating other users. But I don't usually see what they write.

Call me unreliable.
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The banned list is only updated randomly.
You sure??

My impression is that it’s updated whenever a user is banned. It sometimes happens with high frequency but none lately.

We can bicker about who is right if you wish.
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Originally Posted by indyfabz
Should I try to reverse that trend?
Just because you CAN do it does not mean you SHOULD do it.

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Just because you CAN do it does not mean you SHOULD do it.

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Originally Posted by datlas
You sure??

My impression is that it’s updated whenever a user is banned. It sometimes happens with high frequency but none lately.

We can bicker about who is right if you wish.
Quite sure. If you want to bicker we should probably start a new thread. Question is, where should we put it?
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Originally Posted by dedhed
I'm not as old as you (yet) so have the time. I suppose if I posted in P&R (or the 41) instead of just visiting, it might be different.
I'd be curious to see what the numbers on ignore to eventually banned are.
Nobody I know is as old as 3a. He claims to have invented the wheel...
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Originally Posted by ahsposo
Nobody I know is as old as 3a. He claims to have invented the wheel...
...nobody else has claimed credit for it.
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Originally Posted by ahsposo
Nobody I know is as old as 3a. He claims to have invented the wheel...
I think it's pretty close between him & his buddy Onbike
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I don't mean to bicker, but I'd rather scroll by petty arguments than a thread where four people quote the OP with 8 photos when their reply doesn't even depend on the photos.
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