Crabby Deb

WHOOO...get those eyes examined if you're that myopic.

In the Mid-Atlantic, male to female ratio is (argueably) 3:1.

Strong Bad

I ride quite frequently with females, which include my wife. They don't need me, (or any guy), to make cycling attractive to them. They ride because they like it.
Also, you don't need to find a partner that rides, but you have to find one that is tolerant of your riding.
If she rides, that CAN BE a bonus. Keep in mind though, that if she rides, you will have to ride at a pace you both enjoy.
(Hope you can keep up.)

rollin

So then why are you Crabby?

I don't necessarly agree with Macka, not every Fred needs a Wilma. My wife enjoys cycling but is not smitten like I am. She totally encourages me and I do the same for her passions. Ying and Yang works too.

MikeLD

Before providing any semi intelligent comment ... i.e. "you're probably better of without her" ... or "why'd you let her get away" ... I'm afraid , we'll need to see a photo of the "ex" before judgement can be passed.

grolby

Wanting more time and attention in a relationship != thinking that you are the center of the universe. Goodness knows that there are just as many (if not more) men who feel that they are the center of the universe. There are plenty of cycling men who could stand to give more attention and care to their relationships rather than seeing them as an outlet for their sexual and emotional needs at their (and only their) convenience.

Not saying the OP or his now-ex are are any of these bad sorts of people, by the way, just that laying the blame for the failure of every relationship where cycling is involved on the woman is absurd. It's hurtful and isn't productive in terms of developing some actual skills in relating to people. Men aren't the only real people on the planet, after all. Women are humans, too. I don't why so many people persist in believing otherwise.

In any case, people have different needs and priorities. If those don't match up, it just isn't going to work. It seems best in those cases to move on, rather than keep slogging along until things implode. Good for the OP, on moving on from a relationship where the priorities didn't match - but don't assume that a significant other is by definition an impediment to cycling or other fun. I have a girlfriend who, while she isn't a cyclist, understands the drive and demands of an athletic pursuit. She's a long-time rower, so she's familiar with racing sport. So far, my cycling hasn't been a problem. If it turns out that I am using my riding and talk of bicycles and such to avoid doing emotional work in our relationship, there will be a discussion, but it won't be about how either of us are bad for not giving the other person exactly what they want all the time. It'll be about making time for one another and whether that's a realistic possibility at that time. It seems like a more adult way of dealing with the relationship/athletics issue than just mouthing-off about "that b!tch."

grolby

The most important consideration in judging any woman is of course her sexual attractiveness. Isn't it adorable when they try to have things like opinions, or minds, or personal agency, though?

Strong Bad

Wait a minute.. you lost me on the "adorable", and "opinions" thing.
If someone wants an opinion, I'll give it to them.
Having one that isn't mine, is not the least bit "adorable",
and I don't care what kind of hair care products you prefer.

unbelievably

If it's any condolence,
She sounds like a *itch.