On the heels of another thread I posted here I wanted to get some feedback.

Men and women preferably from all ages and experiences.

The question is simply this:

Is there an issue with have an opposite sex riding partner when only one of you is married?

If you have to ask, yes.

No issues. But mostly depends on the spouse of the riding partner.

I have no issues with it. Others seem to think that there could be issues that crop up.

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if there is a problem from either side coming from the others significant other you are better off staying away from that problem...there are plenty of people to ride with. Id find it odd as well just because I don't like riding with my girlfriend as much because we are on 2 totally different levels. it would make sense for her to ride with women on the same level...not some dude being creepy

If not, the jealousy issues will destroy that one marriage, and then it won't be a problem anyway.

Like most things it depends on the situation and specific people. This actually comes up frequently around here. It seems to be more of an issue when both are married. Believe that one....

I need a female touch.

Is the question a matter of infidelity? And if so, is it a matter of adultery, or lust/coveting (mental adultery, to coin a terrible phrase)?

In my own experience it comes down to a matter of trust. And not just trust in your spouse if you are the one sitting at home and not on the bike, but trust in your spouse and the friend/riding partner.

No problem at all. But my little group of married guys can't seem to attract any women, single or married, to join us.

I look at it this way. Would I like my spouse doing something with a member of the opposite sex by themselves. No, not really. And I don't think my wife would like the reverse.

There is a phrase, "one thing led to another."

But, to each his/her own.

No.

If there are inherently no issues in the marriage, why would there be an problem? I ride quite a bit, occasionally with just one other person, sometimes a woman. It's never come up as an issue. My wife in her job sometimes has to work one-on-one with men... no worries. So far, 27 years on (this Thursday), one thing has not led to another.

it's playing with fire

I think this would be an issue of you 2 were doing a sufferfest in a closed garage. Yes I meant to say that. It's quite different if you're in the out open public where everyone can see you. I make it a point to mention all the female's names in my group to my wife so that if for some reason down the road she asks who so and so is I can tell her that I mentioned her and she didn't have a problem. If you're a responsible, faithful adult then there is really no issue unless you want there to be one/

I just don't get the hang up w/ this issue. I'm not one to stray or be jealous (especially of training partners). I mean its road biking not semi-nude tantric yoga practice... Besides lets face it, bike kit does not flatter most men so what is really threatening about coed road training? Meh....

From what I have seen, men and women ride very differently. I would also find it odd, since I am much better matched with other women riders. I can't fairly say whether I would be okay with it...my ex-husband is my ex because of his infidelity.

I don't think it's any different than any other situation in life. If you're going to cheat, you're going to cheat. Doesn't matter whether it's a ride partner, a co-worker, or a neighbor. If you're going to go after a married person, you're going to do it. Some will, some won't. So if you're not the cheating type, but somehow think cycling will be different, I doubt it. If your ARE the cheating type and you somehow think cycling will be different, I doubt it too.

From a Christian perspective (to which I hold), it would not be right at all. Christians are to avoid even the appearance of evil so as not to bring shame upon the name of Jesus. If someone were to see me riding "alone" with a married woman, it would certainly arouse suspicions of adultery, regardless of whether there was any actual adultery or tendencies toward that. So it should be avoided.

Furthermore, why on earth would a married person want to put themselves in that situation? It's only asking for trouble. Suspicions of adultery from anyone who knows either person, seeing them alone together. And it's also putting oneself in an environment which could easily lead to adultery.

I wouldn't do it. Not regularly, or even once. I'd choose to ride alone or with at least a group of three.

My wife and I ride together and generally say less than 100 words per 15 miles. So I don't think there would be an intimacy issue having a female riding / training partner assuming you kept strictly to the riding and didn't interact outside of that.

It depends, do you think she's really hot? Generally, I don't think it would be much of an issue for random rides here and there. If you go three times a week together, you're about the same age, and generally attracted to each other, watch out.

wut

Is "riding" a euphemism for sex?

No problems at all. I ride and train with a few female cyclists and tri types. They are cyclists, nothing more. My wife knows them all and after 28 years being married to a pilot, she trusts me completely, and with good cause.

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If the only "riding" is happening on your respective bikes, whats the problem?

If people can't trust each other to ride next to somebody on a bike without being consumed with a monkey-like need for sex, then how will they deal with actual difficult situations?