View Poll Results: Is an opposite sex riding partner ok if only one of you is married?
Yes
75
59.06%
No
30
23.62%
Depends - Please explain.
22
17.32%
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This thread needs a female touch
08-10-11 | 11:08 PM
#226
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There is a difference between "just looking" and creepy ogling/obsessing.
I know I am replying to your post but my point isnt directed specifically at you - I am just amazed by how many people here seem to think that their GF or SO going out with a single guy is somehow an invitation to cheating or to creepy thoughts on the part of the other person.
I've done a bunch of consulting gigs in the Middle East and I expect this attitude there, not here. This is precisely the type of thinking that is behind the burkha, or the Saudi rules that married women must not be alone with other men.
I know I am replying to your post but my point isnt directed specifically at you - I am just amazed by how many people here seem to think that their GF or SO going out with a single guy is somehow an invitation to cheating or to creepy thoughts on the part of the other person.
I've done a bunch of consulting gigs in the Middle East and I expect this attitude there, not here. This is precisely the type of thinking that is behind the burkha, or the Saudi rules that married women must not be alone with other men.
anybody can say how they would ideally act in such situations...I just try to be honest with myself in knowing that I WOULD have a problem with it, not for my insecurities, because she makes me feel very secure, but for the sheer fact that somebody else was treading on my grounds...like i said before...i tend to be very alpha male when it comes to things like that. I don't care if people look down on me for that...i see it as simple nature. I understand that there are other males who are more alpha than me...and im not afraid to back away lol...darwinism...don't **** with **** that can kill you. either way...if somebody is going to cheat they are going to cheat...you can't stop that...that usually occurs when something is already wrong in the relationship...if that's the case then you need something to end it anyways...cut your losses and move on.
08-11-11 | 06:32 AM
#227
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Well, examples supporting either side abound but realistically the cycling together has nothing to do with the coed dynamic or outcome. Happy, committed couples w/ solid morals and foundations generally do not disintegrate with the introduction of extramarital coed activity. Not saying it never happens but simply that when it does it usually is due to factors inherent w/in the relationship and not the result of the outside influence....
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"Let us hope our weapons are never needed --but do not forget what the common people knew when they demanded the Bill of Rights: An armed citizenry is the first defense, the best defense, and the final defense against tyranny. If guns are outlawed, only the government will have guns. Only the police, the secret police, the military, the hired servants of our rulers. Only the government -- and a few outlaws. I intend to be among the outlaws" - Edward Abbey
08-11-11 | 06:35 AM
#228
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I know, right? They broke the mold before they made hunks of crap like me! 
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"Let us hope our weapons are never needed --but do not forget what the common people knew when they demanded the Bill of Rights: An armed citizenry is the first defense, the best defense, and the final defense against tyranny. If guns are outlawed, only the government will have guns. Only the police, the secret police, the military, the hired servants of our rulers. Only the government -- and a few outlaws. I intend to be among the outlaws" - Edward Abbey
08-11-11 | 06:38 AM
#229
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Gomez would NEVER let Morticia ride with another guy - - - that would call for a duel!
08-11-11 | 09:04 AM
#230
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I don't know about you young fellows, but I'm not usually thinking about sex when I'm riding. That's surprising, 'cause mainly that's all I think about when I'm not riding.
Sometimes I do think about riding when I'm having sex, but I guess that's a different issue.
If you get my drift.
Sometimes I do think about riding when I'm having sex, but I guess that's a different issue.
If you get my drift.
08-11-11 | 09:11 AM
#231
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I'd just let Fester shoot em in the back!
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"Let us hope our weapons are never needed --but do not forget what the common people knew when they demanded the Bill of Rights: An armed citizenry is the first defense, the best defense, and the final defense against tyranny. If guns are outlawed, only the government will have guns. Only the police, the secret police, the military, the hired servants of our rulers. Only the government -- and a few outlaws. I intend to be among the outlaws" - Edward Abbey
