I Quit
#1
I Quit
Temporarily, that is. My wife and I have been trying to get pregnant for the better part of the year, and her and the doctor (and me to a much lesser extent) think that my cycling could be making things harder for us (not the actual cycling, but the fact that my boys spend hours at a time in spandex in 90° + weather). I was riding around 100 miles a week or so for a while, so now I'm laying low. It sucks a little bit, BUT I made a deal. As soon as she is pregnant I'm getting a brand new Specialized Roubaix! And a new baby. Not sure which I'm more excited about.
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Temporarily, that is. My wife and I have been trying to get pregnant for the better part of the year, and her and the doctor (and me to a much lesser extent) think that my cycling could be making things harder for us (not the actual cycling, but the fact that my boys spend hours at a time in spandex in 90° + weather). I was riding around 100 miles a week or so for a while, so now I'm laying low. It sucks a little bit, BUT I made a deal. As soon as she is pregnant I'm getting a brand new Specialized Roubaix! And a new baby. Not sure which I'm more excited about. 

Just saying....
In any event congrats on the new bike and the upcoming baby.
#7
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Why don't you go to a clinic and find out if it's you or her that is having issues? If your sperm count is normal, then why should you have to give up something you love doing? A lot of the time it's the woman that have difficulties getting pregnant. There are more variables to consider with women. Sometimes they just can't get pregnant, and other times they will miscarry repeatedly. However, with a guy it's pretty simple. You are either sterile or you make millions of sperm.
Either way, good luck and hopefully you get both!
Either way, good luck and hopefully you get both!
#8
Why don't you go to a clinic and find out if it's you or her that is having issues? If your sperm count is normal, then why should you have to give up something you love doing? A lot of the time it's the woman that have difficulties getting pregnant. There are more variables to consider with women. Sometimes they just can't get pregnant, and other times they will miscarry repeatedly. However, with a guy it's pretty simple. You are either sterile or you make millions of sperm.
Either way, good luck and hopefully you get both!
Either way, good luck and hopefully you get both!
#9
Uh, the deal was "she gets pregnant and I get a new Roubaix", right??? I'd hammer that home before the appointment next week. No wiggle room. If it is you, well, then you get a big fat comfort saddle and don't ride so much. If it is her = new bike...
All this works in theory until the wife is involved. Then like Clausewitz theory, the best plans are quickly laid waste.
All this works in theory until the wife is involved. Then like Clausewitz theory, the best plans are quickly laid waste.
#10
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I'm going to give you an advice because i been in the same boat. Your wife wants a kid so bad that is not going to happen. I have asked other people with the same problem and for some reason is always like that, u guys want a kid badly, then apparently pressure, stress and who knows what else kind'a ruin the thing and just nothing happens no matter what u guys do. Even "doing it" kind;a sucks with those threatments... kind'a... "come on get me pregnant now BABY!!!!!"
In our case we just gave up and we were thinking in adoption or something, so we took the idea of babies out for a few months, then we bought two dogs and a month after she was pregnant. Pregnancy is something that just needs to happen, relaxed and with no stress... just let your life to continue as normal, maybe a trip somewhere? In vitro insemination is so expensive that I needed to sell the house, the cars and all my bikes to be able to pay for something that is not even sure 100%.
In my case we were thinking that the bike was the problem too, it was only stress... women are really rare animal.
Relax man, take it easy thats all, If your wife gets pregnant be careful because the second one will come even if you touch her shoulder, that quick
Good luck man
In our case we just gave up and we were thinking in adoption or something, so we took the idea of babies out for a few months, then we bought two dogs and a month after she was pregnant. Pregnancy is something that just needs to happen, relaxed and with no stress... just let your life to continue as normal, maybe a trip somewhere? In vitro insemination is so expensive that I needed to sell the house, the cars and all my bikes to be able to pay for something that is not even sure 100%.
In my case we were thinking that the bike was the problem too, it was only stress... women are really rare animal.
Relax man, take it easy thats all, If your wife gets pregnant be careful because the second one will come even if you touch her shoulder, that quick
Good luck man
#11
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I believe reducing the mileage to a reasonable but effective number, wearing loose shorts, riding hard and fast but with warm-ups and cool-downs, in reasonable weather, makes it better. But I'm not a doc. Good luck in your mission!
#12
Not sure what to say. I read once that if you quit running cold turkey it causes biochemical changes in your body that causes depression. Maybe swimming or something just to keep you in shape. Anyway, good luck with your baby-making.
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Don't quit riding now because if she does get pregnant you won't be riding significantly the first few months after the baby is born.
For me it was probably 6+ months before I had the opportunity to really start riding again after my daughter was born, though my wife had a C-section and needed quite a bit of help initially. A lot of it also had to do with sleep deprivation. lol
Also don't stress the whole "process." It's amazing how something as fun as sex can become a chore when there is pressure added to the equation. I know when you're trying to make something happen and when she's planning the dates for boogey-nights, it can become monotonous. As long as there is nothing seriously wrong, it'll happen.
For me it was probably 6+ months before I had the opportunity to really start riding again after my daughter was born, though my wife had a C-section and needed quite a bit of help initially. A lot of it also had to do with sleep deprivation. lolAlso don't stress the whole "process." It's amazing how something as fun as sex can become a chore when there is pressure added to the equation. I know when you're trying to make something happen and when she's planning the dates for boogey-nights, it can become monotonous. As long as there is nothing seriously wrong, it'll happen.
#18
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You don't need to cut cycling completely. She's not ovulating constantly, and you replenish your swim team to full capacity in 72 hours. So (and this was the advice from my wife's OB when we were trying) you need to stay off the bike 3-4 days before she is expected to ovulate.
Same story here. After months of consulting with doctors, marking dates on calendars, and even considering medical intervention, we just kind of took a break. It was during this break when my wife took a week off work to get her wisdom teeth removed. Still somewhat hopped up on pain pills and feeling good from the attention I was giving her (I was also on a break from work), we did it and that did it! My wife is an eager professional, so she is in high stress as it is, and stressing out over trying to get pregnant didn't help at all.
Sounds believable to me. 3 weeks leading up to the birth and 6 weeks after, one or both of them were in the hospital. The constant visits and other new parent duties kept me off the bike for a while, and I was depressed and moody. I also continued to gain weight and am still trying to work it off a year later.
Don't get too excited. You will be so busy changing diapers and giving the little one attention, and so tired from waking up every 3 hours from his cries (that's how often newborns feed), and so frazzled from the other times he screams and you can't figure out why, you might not be able to ride that new Roubaix for a while. I cracked my frame shortly before having my son and the replacement bike had maybe 200 miles on it when he turned 3 months old. So I recommend waiting a year before buying the Roubaix so you don't sit there looking at a "like new" 1 year-old bike.
I'm going to give you an advice because i been in the same boat. Your wife wants a kid so bad that is not going to happen. I have asked other people with the same problem and for some reason is always like that, u guys want a kid badly, then apparently pressure, stress and who knows what else kind'a ruin the thing and just nothing happens no matter what u guys do. Even "doing it" kind;a sucks with those threatments... kind'a... "come on get me pregnant now BABY!!!!!"
In our case we just gave up and we were thinking in adoption or something, so we took the idea of babies out for a few months, then we bought two dogs and a month after she was pregnant. Pregnancy is something that just needs to happen, relaxed and with no stress... just let your life to continue as normal, maybe a trip somewhere? In vitro insemination is so expensive that I needed to sell the house, the cars and all my bikes to be able to pay for something that is not even sure 100%.
In our case we just gave up and we were thinking in adoption or something, so we took the idea of babies out for a few months, then we bought two dogs and a month after she was pregnant. Pregnancy is something that just needs to happen, relaxed and with no stress... just let your life to continue as normal, maybe a trip somewhere? In vitro insemination is so expensive that I needed to sell the house, the cars and all my bikes to be able to pay for something that is not even sure 100%.
Don't get too excited. You will be so busy changing diapers and giving the little one attention, and so tired from waking up every 3 hours from his cries (that's how often newborns feed), and so frazzled from the other times he screams and you can't figure out why, you might not be able to ride that new Roubaix for a while. I cracked my frame shortly before having my son and the replacement bike had maybe 200 miles on it when he turned 3 months old. So I recommend waiting a year before buying the Roubaix so you don't sit there looking at a "like new" 1 year-old bike.
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#19
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Don't quit riding now because if she does get pregnant you won't be riding significantly the first few months after the baby is born.
For me it was probably 6+ months before I had the opportunity to really start riding again after my daughter was born, though my wife had a C-section and needed quite a bit of help initially. A lot of it also had to do with sleep deprivation. lol
For me it was probably 6+ months before I had the opportunity to really start riding again after my daughter was born, though my wife had a C-section and needed quite a bit of help initially. A lot of it also had to do with sleep deprivation. lol
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#21
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Temporarily, that is. My wife and I have been trying to get pregnant for the better part of the year, and her and the doctor (and me to a much lesser extent) think that my cycling could be making things harder for us (not the actual cycling, but the fact that my boys spend hours at a time in spandex in 90° + weather). I was riding around 100 miles a week or so for a while, so now I'm laying low. It sucks a little bit, BUT I made a deal. As soon as she is pregnant I'm getting a brand new Specialized Roubaix! And a new baby. Not sure which I'm more excited about. 

#22
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I think it's Jen Voight who has six kids. Rides about 35,000 miles a year. There are many professionals with families. How'd that happen?
Last edited by roadwarrior; 08-13-11 at 04:02 AM.
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I rode consistently through both times my wife got pregnant so I'd recommend getting a proper evaluation to determine what the actual cause might be. I agree with ultraman in regards to letting go the desperation to get pregnant because of the stress it can bring about.
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