There was an item I waa looking at that was a buy it now or best offer. I offered and he accepted. I have not paid yet. I have now second thought this purchase (which I know ia my fault) and am wanting to back out. Is there a way for me to back out of this deal?

I made the mistake once of making an offer that was auto-accepted. I emailed the seller and explained I didn't realize it would auto-accept. E-bay re-listed the item with no charge and there was no feedback left. Lesson learned.

You're pretty much bound to pay. But, seeing as sellers can't leave you a negative feedback, the worst he can do is file a non-paying bidder complaint against you. Ask the seller if he is willing to cancel the transaction mutually, so it doesn't result in a NPB on your file and he gets his seller fees back.

^ +1 same thing just be apologetic the sooner the better so you dont feel like your wasting they're time

i meant for ultraslides comment

Do not ever let money leave your wallet if you are having second thoughts.

Write the seller, be honest and apologise. End of story.

You hit the button twice confirming you wanted the product at that price, man up and pay. How would you feel if someone did that to you and you had to jump through the eBay hoops as the seller?

Not paying would be sleazy. Suck it up and think it through more thoroughly next time. You'll feel better having done the right thing.

Don't be an ass, pay the man. Ebay is the same as buying ANYWHERE else online, only they don't enforce it very well (my day job is running an eBay store), and people think eBay uses Monopoly money or something.

Its real, geniuses. Man up and pay. You made the decision, now live with it.

it is not like you took the item home and used it. You are only bound by ebay terms. If you care about ebay and its terms then try to work it out. Otherwise **** ebay, feedbacks and everything else in between.

I have been on that side many times and made an exception.


Oh well, he wouldnt let me out of ir anyway. I paid for it. Maybe I will like it and keep it.
Lesson learned ...
Thanks guys

When you submit an offer, you are prompted with a message explaining that it is a binding agreement to pay, no different than if you are the high bidder in an open auction. Not realizing it would be auto-accepted is no excuse, since once when you submitted the offer, the acceptance of it was out of your control either way. If you don't want someone to accept your offer, don't make it in the first place.

Excellent choice. I predict you will be faster up all hills!

Regardless of what other people did you to you, you should have and did do the right thing. I just sold a set of wheels today for far under what they were worth so I could get a really good deal on a set of Sram red shifters. I sold the wheels and get home only to find out that the seller cancelled the transaction because he sold them locally "within a few minutes" of me buying the shifters. Just because someone else does something shady doesn't mean you should. Good on you for taking the path less traveled.

Yeah, it was my fault to begin with for not taking my time in making my decision. I rushed it and I realize that. Problem solved though, I will be getting my new oakleys within the next week or so.

New cycling items are ALWAYS a good thing !

So what did you buy that you think was not such a good buy? I mean did you make an offer of $300 on a Trek OCLV with DA equip and they took it or was it an offer of $200 on a 1990 Ross mountain bike with Tourney shifters?

If it's an individual selling it, the proper thing would be to complete the transaction (or work out a deal with the seller). If it's an E-Bay store, just don't pay. Cancel the transaction and don't worry about it. It would be like ringing up a product at WalMart and then asking the cashier to remove the item because you changed your mind. No biggie. But ultimately it's YOUR money. If you changed your mind, then so be it. I'm sure thousands of people change their minds about E-Bay purchases.

I did that once on ebay, the seller was understanding and I paypal'd 10 bucks for his next lunch.

As a seller I hate people like you.

I know that we can just always cancel the auction and I get credited for my listing fees, but it's a nuisance.

It was a pair of oakleys. I saw them and really liked them. Tried them on at the oakley store but didn't really have much time to look at them on my face. I liked them enough but wasn't sure which color I wanted. I looked on google imagas and settled on a color. it was "louder" than I would usually go but I liked how they looked. Went on ebay, made my offer (they were $140 and i got them for $90), went to bed. went to work and as I stopped by an account of mine in the mall, I stopped into a sunglass hut where I had more time to try them on and look. Came to find out that the ones I bid on didn't look as good as I had hoped and really liked the normal chrome lense. as I was walking out of the mall, I checked my email and he accepted my account. I honestly didn't know that making an offer and him accepting would automatically finalize the deal. I figured there would be one more step. (I dont do a lot of ebay shopping). thats when I wanted to find out if there was an easy way without being rude to backout. I emailed him and told him the situation, he emailed back saying, tuff, you agreed, pay it or I will report you and I dont want to do that. I felt responsible regardless of his less than understanding reply since in the end it was my fault for jumping the gun, so I paid him. Who knows, maybe I will get them and love them. If not, I will try to resell them.

I have sold as well and delt with this being on the sellers side. It is a nuisance, but it happens.

Sorry you hate me.

Well, we are the people with the money. Sorry if it's a nuisance, but if you are in the business of selling things you need to expect it to happen and NOT consider it a nuisance. It's another opportunity to interact with a potential customer.

Sounds like this seller lost a customer for life. Yes, he got his $90 for the glasses...but I'll bet if he asked bianchi10 if there was another pair of glasses he wanted to trade for or simply say "No problem. I'll cancel the transaction. Sorry it didn't work out, but I hope you consider (insert store name) the next time you need sunglasses" that bianchi10 would probably remember that and perhaps buy from him again, and maybe even give some good props on an internet forum. Instead the merchant threatens the buyer. That is bad business.

If I was the seller, I couldn't care less. I'd rather not deal with eBay buyers who welch on their commitment to buy something from me. So I lose a buyer like that, big deal. eBay is a large enough market that there are plenty of other non-squirrelly buyers to keep me in business, so I'm going to hold all buyers to their word when they buy something from me.

Besides, you are ignoring the fact that the buyer is the one in the wrong here. It's not the seller's duty to excuse one's ignorance merely to generate a false sense of goodwill that may or may not benefit him in the future.