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Originally Posted by sillygirl
ahhh - see that is exactly how I define selfihness though. Different defitions of a word make conversations very difficult!
Many people refer to a toddler who is whining for "MY TOY" as being selfish - but i see that as a moment of lack of selfishness. See at that very moment she is alienating or pissing off the other child she is playing with and ultimately doing herself a disfavor. Thus she probably wont get to play with the other childs toy the next day.
However, if she had shared her toy, then when the other child gets a brand new toy, she is more likely to share back. Thus she is spreading her resources to get more in return. And thats what I call the beauty of being selfish. Same principle as helping others because it is the right thing to do, just a tad more honest, and more importantly a larger view of the actual transaction at hand.
Objectivists like me get a bad wrap - but usually its because people are hesitant to understand a difference in language - which is very subjective. Frequently people get caught up in their own definition and fail to listen with an open ear....
Many people refer to a toddler who is whining for "MY TOY" as being selfish - but i see that as a moment of lack of selfishness. See at that very moment she is alienating or pissing off the other child she is playing with and ultimately doing herself a disfavor. Thus she probably wont get to play with the other childs toy the next day.
However, if she had shared her toy, then when the other child gets a brand new toy, she is more likely to share back. Thus she is spreading her resources to get more in return. And thats what I call the beauty of being selfish. Same principle as helping others because it is the right thing to do, just a tad more honest, and more importantly a larger view of the actual transaction at hand.
Objectivists like me get a bad wrap - but usually its because people are hesitant to understand a difference in language - which is very subjective. Frequently people get caught up in their own definition and fail to listen with an open ear....
Take care...
Jim
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Originally Posted by jimv
Well it would have been helpful if you had identified yourself as an Objectivist first. If you did, and I missed it, then I apologize. You are naturally entitled to your views but I personally reject objectivism and wouldn't have bothered you with a response had I known the situation. I have had too many protracted 'discussions' with objectivist to know that we would have a very difficult time finding any common ground.
Well to be fair, I wouldn't hole myself into an entirely objectivist label because I believe that there is an underlying theme to all philosophies and as I mentioned before, the problem is how we communicate these ideas to other people. Language creates roadblocks - and often specific terms force people to become defensive or shutdown because of what they naturally associate with those terms - which you just perfectly demonstrated. my use of the word objectivist made you turn off. Here I was agreeing with you and defining my words so you would see that, and you failed to see it because you were not able to move past the "language" barrier.
Then again I also believe that objectivism can also be reconciled with relativism since i dont live in the dualistic world that most people do around me. So I am a strange one... I think its important to explore all ways of looking at life - and be wary of living too inside your personal bubble of beliefs. How do you know that pecan pie is your favorite if you only judge the other types from the pictures on the box instead of taking time to do a taste test?
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off-topic, but, from what/where/whom do you derive your objectivism?
also, how do you reconcile two opposing viewpoints such as objectivism and relativism?
an objectivist who doesn't live in a dualistic world -- you _are_ a strange one.
also, how do you reconcile two opposing viewpoints such as objectivism and relativism?
an objectivist who doesn't live in a dualistic world -- you _are_ a strange one.
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Originally Posted by adamkell
off-topic, but, from what/where/whom do you derive your objectivism?
also, how do you reconcile two opposing viewpoints such as objectivism and relativism?
an objectivist who doesn't live in a dualistic world -- you _are_ a strange one.
also, how do you reconcile two opposing viewpoints such as objectivism and relativism?
an objectivist who doesn't live in a dualistic world -- you _are_ a strange one.


so in a nutshell - relativists tend to assert that reality is what we make of - it is a creation of our ideas - thus there are different realities. while an objectivist would counter that the world is static and not dynamic and things are the way they are. period. life will continue whether or not we are around to interpret it (basically the two different answers to what sound does a tree make when it falls alone in the woods) Does it make a sound because we percieve it - or does it make a sound regardless. So my non dualistic brain (similar to wilber and spectrum of consciousness) says sure there is a sound when it falls, even if there is not someone there to perceive it, but how we percieve it when we are there creates the different realities - i hear a big tree, you hear a small tree. So objectivist in that the sound happens no matter what - but relativist in that noone hears the sound the same way, thus everyone is perceiving different realities. So the reconciliation is simply that its not black and white - but instead a spectrum of greys. In other words i believe in a static world but the way we perceive it is dynamic.
Then again - what is it Robert A. Wilson always says: "believe everything, accept nothing" oh wait thats mine - he says: "I believe in nothing, but I have many suspicions." My old sig used to say: life is most interesting at the intersection of its contradictions.
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When I replied, I was actually thinking of objectivism and relativism in the moral sense -- universal good and bad versus individual analysis and judgement of reality based on previous experience. So anyone prescribing to moral objectivism would seem to live in a dualistic world.
Anyway, I really enjoyed your explanation. I found some words from Wilber that should be included somewhere in the sign-up process for any internet forum:
Anyone want to get this thread back on track?
Anyway, I really enjoyed your explanation. I found some words from Wilber that should be included somewhere in the sign-up process for any internet forum:
Originally Posted by Wilber
I have one major rule: everybody is right. More specifically, everybody—including me—has some important pieces of the truth, and all of those pieces need to be honored, cherished, and included in a more gracious, spacious, and compassionate embrace."
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Originally Posted by sillygirl
And the "open ear" problem strikes again.
Originally Posted by sillygirl
Well to be fair, I wouldn't hole myself into an entirely objectivist label because I believe that there is an underlying theme to all philosophies and as I mentioned before, the problem is how we communicate these ideas to other people. Language creates roadblocks.....
Originally Posted by sillygirl
....... - and often specific terms force people to become defensive or shutdown because of what they naturally associate with those terms ......
Originally Posted by sillygirl
- which you just perfectly demonstrated. my use of the word objectivist made you turn off. Here I was agreeing with you and defining my words so you would see that, and you failed to see it because you were not able to move past the "language" barrier.
Originally Posted by sillygirl
Then again I also believe that objectivism can also be reconciled with relativism since i dont live in the dualistic world that most people do around me.....
Originally Posted by sillygirl
So I am a strange one... I think its important to explore all ways of looking at life - and be wary of living too inside your personal bubble of beliefs. How do you know that pecan pie is your favorite if you only judge the other types from the pictures on the box instead of taking time to do a taste test?
Take care...
Jim
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Originally Posted by adamkell
Anyone want to get this thread back on track?
Ummm, I heard that DW bikes were cool .....uhhhh anyone heard of him?? Does that help alittle?
Jim
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Sometimes the "what's in it for me" argument is the only way to reach certain types of people. As materialistic and selfish much of American society has become, it's the argument that reaches a large portion of the people.
Slightly back on topic, does the axiom "don't buy anything American-made that was made on Monday or Friday" still hold true?
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Slightly back on topic, does the axiom "don't buy anything American-made that was made on Monday or Friday" still hold true?
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also, rationality and reason does not unequivocally lead to egoism. take habermas' "theory of communicative action," which states that the most developed and complex form of rationality is that which is fundamental to when we try to understand each other. a different kind of objectivism, if you will.
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