This hurts
01-07-24 | 12:13 PM
#28
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From: Monroe Township,NJ
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My twin sister, Kathy (I am Ken), had a stroke the night of 12/31-1/1, and passed the 2nd. I had just returned to Delaware the 28th, from Illinois, after spending Christmas week with my siblings and families.
I am still kind of in shock and heading back to Illinois in the morning. I am thankful I saw her during the holiday, she visited me for a week this past summer, and we spent our 70th birthday together in September of 22.
I am still kind of in shock and heading back to Illinois in the morning. I am thankful I saw her during the holiday, she visited me for a week this past summer, and we spent our 70th birthday together in September of 22.
Best regards
01-07-24 | 03:22 PM
#29
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From: UK, New Forest
Bikes: 1948-49 Allin SB Long Term Resto 1948 Raleigh Lenton Clubman Frame Project 1950 Raleigh Clubman Frame Project 1951 Claud Butler New Allrounder Frame Project 1959 Claud Butler European 1977 Motobécane C4 1977 Carlton Clubman 1980 Gitane Sprint
Loss is one of the things we have to suffer in life. My brother came to spend a week with me some years back, he borrowed my bike to go buy something at the store, and never came back. He was run over by a speeding vehicle driven by an unlicensed and uninsured driver. The only thing recognizable on his remains was a tattoo he had on his arm.
The point for delbiker1 is, I still think about him and talk to him. When someone is taken from you physically they remain alive with you.
01-08-24 | 06:04 PM
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So sorry you lost your sister. Of all the sucky things in life, losing loved ones is the suckiest.
I lost my brother years ago. He was obese and in terrible shape, and when we were kids we fought like cats and dogs. But we were close and got closer as we got older. I cried like a baby giving his eulogy. It was not pretty.
All I have now are memories, but I treasure them.
I lost my brother years ago. He was obese and in terrible shape, and when we were kids we fought like cats and dogs. But we were close and got closer as we got older. I cried like a baby giving his eulogy. It was not pretty.
All I have now are memories, but I treasure them.
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01-10-24 | 07:18 AM
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As a father of twins I know there is a special bond there that cannot be explained. My daughter survived a very troublesome birth , her identical sister did not . She feels the presence of her sister even though they never played together. Hopefully , as time goes on , you will keep the presence of your sister with you. I am sorry for your loss.
01-10-24 | 09:55 AM
#34
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From: South Meriden, CT
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ugh, heart breaking. my sympathy.
01-14-24 | 07:30 AM
#35
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From: Sussex County, Delaware
As a father of twins I know there is a special bond there that cannot be explained. My daughter survived a very troublesome birth , her identical sister did not . She feels the presence of her sister even though they never played together. Hopefully , as time goes on , you will keep the presence of your sister with you. I am sorry for your loss.
I have been home for a couple of days, done a couple of bike rides to the beach and back. Life goes on, I keep rolling.
01-14-24 | 12:34 PM
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From: Palo Alto, CA
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Kathy and I were 3rd and 4th born of 10 children, she took her time, showing up 75 minutes after me, and was predeceased by our oldest and youngest brothers. No matter how different my twin and I were, there was always a special connection between us, some of which I will carry as long as I live. Seeing her was one of the hardest, most necessary, moments of my life..
She was a strong and competitive triathlete, so I want to do a big ride this year to honor her life. I haven't figured out what event it will be yet, but I am doing every ride this whole year with her in mind.
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