dusted

I bought her a bike that is comfy, simple and easy to ride. (29er motobecane outcast) I cut the bars because she said that it felt really wide. I replaced the brand new tires/tube that were on it with new 35c "multi use" tires because she said it looked "beastly". I fit this bike for her better then I fit my own for me.

She has ridden a total of maybe two blocks on it at which point she tells me "Cory! I'm done!" and we walk the bikes back.

She says she's scared. I asked her what of. She says the cars. So we ride on the side walk (against my better judgement btw) Still is scared. I aske her what of she says the bike is to tall she can't reach the ground. I lower the seat enough that she can stand flat footed if she wants while on the seat (against my better judgement again). She still won't go out because she's "scared"

I say WTF M8 what the hell can she be "scared" of.

brans

your better judgment should tell you she just doesn't want to ride a bike, and she's being nice about it.

but hey, thats just MY better judgment.

kjohnnytarr

Get a pedicab.

Philatio

I've got essentially the exact same problem. I guess some people aren't bike people.

dusted

lol yeah well I suffer to do crap I hate with her. So should she after all that's the foundation of a healthy relationship right

brand new 29er will trade for girl who like to ride bikes!!! or just a nice track frame

gehrkead

tandem?

str8flexed

lawl tandem, yeah. i guess.

my ex was the same way. she rode like 5 feet and said the saddle was too high (it in fact, was not). so i lowered it way below where it should've been and then she complained it hurt her "between the legs". then that was that. it was apparent she was just scared.. or something.. and she was not open to trying new things.

dusted

more like pedicab

I think it's the whole "active" part of it, she doesn't really do anything.

It really does kind of piss me off sense first off she said she would ride it if I bought it, and I do all kinds of ****ake with her that I hate doing just because it's stuff she enjoys.

mathletics

+1 on you not taking the hint. Seriously though, why the **** would you start a non-cyclist on a 29er? I'm absolutely baffled. As I've said in another thread, if you want to get your girl riding, you have to start with something easy like a cruiser. Sloping top tube so standover isn't an issue, comfortable upright riding position, and she can ride in a skirt so she doesn't have to put on "biking clothes." (I don't know about the clothes thing, but my girlfriend apparently dresses differently if we're walking or riding.) The number one thing you need to keep in mind is that the whole experience has to be NO PRESSURE. If you're pushing her at all, it'll blow up in your face.

dusted

She picked it out that's what gets me. I was all about getting a cruiser or hybrid or anything really. I just wanted it to be simple and under 400$

Landgolier

new GF time.

dusted

maybe I just need to get a "spare" that rides or isn't afraid to try new stuff

fixedup

this thread makes me happy my gf races road bikes.

dusted

go be positive in someone elses thread this space is reserved for those of us tied to bikeless broads.

mathletics

My gf and I both want to point out that it's both healthy and a good idea for you to have separate hobbies. If this is an issue of limited transportation, it's new girlfriend time. However, if you're just trying to get her to share hobbies with you, maybe this isn't the one.

dusted

we have no common interests though. I have tried getting her into a ton of stuff everything from tennis to board games (seriously it was kinda sad) and she just flat out doesn't want to do anything that doesn't involve shopping clubbing or going to a damn play. I'm starting to lean towards new GF time.

JunkyardWarrior

time for a new gf

Fishy

Plan A - Find a rail trail. Sell the 29er and get her a Sirrus or 7.2 FX WSD or any other sporty hybrid that will be kinder on her newbie legs and ass. If that doesn't work...

Plan B - Marry her.

You'll start to appreciate riding alone after a year or two.

mathletics

Yeah, seriously, she sounds like a total ****ing bummer.

dusted

I el O eled

dusted

I can't sit here and bash on her though. I mean I have been with her for almost 2 years and we live together so something must work since we don't fight. But still she can be a real drag.

JunkyardWarrior

buy some panniers and tell her she can go shopping with it

kjohnnytarr

I used to want to find a girl that wanted to rock-climb, shoot pool, etc with me. Then I was like, "wait, this is my refuge time, when I get to get drunk and sweat and not worry about looking good or catering to other people." No WAY any GF is invading that.

mathletics

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This thread is definitely going deep into "private conversation with a close friend" territory, so it's good that you're backing off. I will say, however, that if you never fight, that might be just as bad a sign as fighting all the time. Conflict can be a catalyst for positive change. <br><br>

Think about it.

Marrock

Hells, I got my girlfriend an adult trike, that way she doesn't have to worry about her feet reacing the ground or even taking them off the pedals when she stops.

Can't do any trail hopping with it and I'm still working on getting her off the sidewalk, but at least she's riding instead of letting her ass get wider in front of the computer.

And if she starts talking too much I just pull away and leaver her yammering in the dust.