I have a doctors appointment today at 3:30PM. My wife passes the office I'll be at when she gets off of work. Odds are that she'll be passing by at the same time I am done with the appt. I am looking forward to riding home but it is twice the distance I usually ride home. She wants to pick me up, we have a bike rack on the back of the car. She is concerned that I'll "be on the streets more" but these are streets I know like the back of my hand in a car. Half of the ride is on a beach bike path then on a regular trail I use on the weekends to get a weekend ride in.

If your spouse is in the same vicinity as you on your ride home would you hitch a ride with her or act is if she wasn't here and make your way home as you normally would, just a little longer?

First of all, it's none of your business, and second, what possible bearing could my situation have on yours?

I would just say "I'll see you at home".

If I'm at the doctors,I CAN"T ride home.....

But in your case,I would ride unless I couldn't.Sounds like a nice ride.

I'd take her up on the offer, call it a 'rest day'... then see if the kids could be somewhere else for a unspecified amount of time...

I'd do whatever works for you as a couple, not just for you. If she wants to spend time with you, consider yourself fortunate and make her happy

Suggest she ride her bike so you can ride home together?

I would tell her that the doc said I need to get more exercise in.

problem solved.

Since you asked, here is my personal opinion, for what it's worth I'd take the lift. After the baby, we get very little time just to ourselves, so any time together that we can sneak in always helps.

LOL. I like that one!

I was just more curious if you all would take a ride when offered or would you act as if it were a normal day and just ride it. I see the answers vary, I should have expected that. lol

I sent her a Google Maps shot of my route so she has it and she thinks I am crazy but then said "I'll see you at home" so I think she got the point I was going to ride home no matter what.

The only situation I ever find myself in that's right analogous at all is if my wife comes in to the city to meet for dinner or happy hour. Before our son was born , I would sometimes still ride home, though the distance was no greater than my normal commute. Now with the baby at, she usually drives my old minivan in for such occasions, rare now that they are, and I just toss my bike in the back and we all three drive home together afterwards.

So you are suggesting the should go park? Well, if it seemed like the wife was interested I may reconsider if I were te OP.

Take the wife's offer.. You married a woman not a bike.

I firmly believe in making my wife happy and letting her win the small battles. That gives me AMO for the big ones when it matters.

Example:

1. Sure honey, I'll go out with you and your friends that hate me instead of my friends to see a romantic comedy with Julia Roberts!

2. Baby, I'm sorry, but I absolutely have to have this bicycle and we're going to need to throw out our luggage to fit it in the back seat...but it could be worse, remember that awful guy in that Julia Roberts movie who treated her so badly?!?

If you want to ride home - then ride home. It's as simple as that.

I hardly think that prefering ride home instead of getting a ride is something that should upset a wife. Unless the OP is commuting some ungodly distance it probbaly is a 10-15 minute drive anyway. To make you both happy, he rides home and when he gets there he spends time with her.

IDK, maybe my wife and I are weird but we don't feel the need to see each other every minute of every day and sometimes it is infact nice to have time of your own.

I love the differing of opinions here.

We do spend a bunch of time together and we also enjoy our time apart. It is what keeps us sane I think. Now that the kids are a little older it does afford us some time at home to just relax. Her wanting to give me a ride is not about spending time together. It was more about the fear factor of me riding on "the street" which for some reason she fails to remember that half my ride every day is on the street. As far as I am concerned the only way to let her know I am safe on other streets is to ride other streets and get home safe.

The thing is you have to find what works for you. No two couples are the same. My wife and I enjoy our time apart because outside of work, it's not often. We spend probably 90+% our free time together with our daughter so asking for an extra hour now and then to enjoy some cycling isn't too much to ask.

I subscribe to the same line of thought.

This, and mention how long you had to wait for your appointment.

Too late now, but I'd say drive back with the wife. Last year, I had to call mine one evening at work for an air pump. (CO2 malfunction) There was a storm front moving in, but after airing up I decided to ride home leaving her to drive the trip back alone. I still haven't heard the end of it.

This one made me laugh, quite a bit at that. Her face must have been a picture after you told her, thanks for the pump, I'm off now. See you at home!

LOL. I would come home to changed locks!!

In my 20's, I'd be with the ride home camp.

Now in my 50's, I'd take the ride because; she's probably more concerned about your health than you are and wants to know how the appointment went (a good thing), you have the opportunity to tell her that she needn't worry about the extra traffic, but you'd be happy to spend some extra time with her. They seem to love that stuff - until the rules change again.

Well...I made the ride home. What a doozie.

While at the doc my wifey really tried to come get me by offering to stop by to see what the doc said. Mind you it was a standard appointment regarding some simple blood work I had. No biggie. I told her I was looking forward to riding but if she wanted she could come by. She finally relaxed a bit and said she would just go get our girls.

Round trip yesterday I rode 38 miles. My regular commute is 22 RT. My entire ride home was in a head wind and that really sucked because I thought I would get a tailwind on the last leg. No luck.

Here is a Google Maps version of my total ride yesterday.

Link for the ride

I can't believe you guys told me to ride home! I'm disgusted!!