Originally Posted by Velo Vol (Post 15037114)

What's the best ratio? I shoot for 50/50.

Originally Posted by coasting (Post 15037176)

encore! encore!

Originally Posted by rjones28 (Post 15037207)

80/20

Originally Posted by Velo Vol (Post 15037223)

Which way?

Originally Posted by coasting (Post 15037222)

do you eat turkey for christmas dinner?

Originally Posted by coasting (Post 15037222)

do you eat turkey for christmas dinner?

Originally Posted by Soloist Assassin (Post 15034006)

That's what makes this even harder. I've seen this girl grow up. She isn't has hot as she used to be. I would of given her a 10/10 in her prime. She gained some weight in grad school, but I still find her attractive. I don't mind when she has morning breath. More importantly I accept her faults. Her depression, and all of that. I also think she may have a bit of a drinking problem. Through all of it, I accept her, and I want to be there for her. It may be the death of me, but I really care about her.

Originally Posted by coasting (Post 15037222)

do you eat turkey for christmas dinner?

Originally Posted by Velo Vol (Post 15037108)

The production value is also slightly better than the webcam music video I made.

Originally Posted by Velo Vol (Post 15037231)

No, why do you ask?

Originally Posted by Drag (Post 15034772)

Its a nice bike, but that house looks fantastic!

Originally Posted by Drag (Post 15035099)

Going back to the crazy hot chics theme... Be careful who you date.

http://www.liveleak.com/view?i=adc_1354851863

Originally Posted by runwiththewind (Post 15037155)

May I ask how old she is? It's a two way street - you can also date. BTW, there are more women than men - I'm sure you won't have a problem dating. www.meetup.com has plenty of groups you can join with your interest. Does your mother like her? I went to visit a bike shop today for the first time in years. I was blown away at the Trek carbon bikes which ranged from $2,000 - $8,000. They are very cool looking. My friend who rode from S.F. to L.A. has a carbon bike her husband built. It is an orbea (from spain). I'm waiting to see a pic of it. Hmmm, engagement ring vs. new bike.....

Originally Posted by runwiththewind (Post 15037233)

This is a long shot but food allergies can wreck havoc as crazy as that sounds. This includes depression, irritability, mental dullness, confusion, anxiety, aggressive behavior, hyperactivity, restlessness, excessive daydreaming, learning disabilities, poor work habits, speech problems, indifference, inability to concentrate. It's great you accept her faults, but having a drinking problem is a horse of another color. Only she can change her situation by wanting to be helped. Nothing you can say or do will change her problem. She most likely doesn't think she has a problem otherwise should would seek professional advice - IMO.

Originally Posted by Velo Vol (Post 15037505)

What about those of us who weren't helpful?

Originally Posted by coasting (Post 15037287)

i've been told by several americans here that turkey is not a traditional christmas thing in america. it blew my mind. i thought the christmas turkey idea in uk came from america.

Originally Posted by Soloist Assassin (Post 15037481)

She is 30, and I am 31. I am also sure I won't have any trouble dating. I actually have two girls I could date right now, if I wanted to other than her. My mother really likes her, but she recognizes her faults as well. She also is quite aware of how much I care about her. I've come to the conclusion this morning as I woke up in a cold sweat from a nightmare about this very situation, that it is indeed time to let go. This time for good perhaps. I've been lying to myself all along. She's cheated on me before, and she is most likely never going to be happy. It's just the way it is. I hate to admit it, but it is a fact. I have full intentions of making our date Sunday our last date. It's time for us to end this amicably once and for all.

The problems are driven by her deep depression. She has suffered from this since she was a young child. It's time for me to just step back, and be a friend, and realize that is all I can ever be to her. I've given a lot this last go around. I've changed myself in many ways for the better, and I've learned a lot. I was starting to loose myself in all of it. I was willing to give up parts of me that make me who I am, to fit her mold of what she wanted me to be. I can't do that to myself. I really hope she finds whatever it is she is looking for. I really hope she pursues counseling more. I've been hurt, and I've destroyed myself over her for far too long. It's time for me to think about myself, and what is best for me. I'd like to continue to be her friend, and help her in anyway I can. She has helped me, along with the posters in this thread this last time, to realize what was wrong with me. I suffered from depression myself for years, which I can only attribute to me feeling like I was not good enough for her. I realize now that isn't the case, and I am not the one with the problem any longer. I am happy with who I am, and I am happy being alone with myself.

I always thought she was the one. There were always these little serendipitous occurrences that would always bring us back together over the years. It made me think there was some higher power bringing us together. Maybe there is, and the timing is just off. She really needs to figure out herself, and become happy with who she is. Until she learns to love herself, I feel she will be incapable of loving someone else. Me on the other hand, I am completely capable, and for the last three months I've been making her my first priority. It seems it was all for nothing, but who really knows. I guess I can just remember the good times we had. Maybe there will be more in the future, maybe not. This Sunday, will be the day I let go, and I just hope for her sake she can figure herself out. I'm just going to step back, and be a friend. I'd like to continue to be her friend, and support her, but us having a relationship just isn't possible now. This is going to be hard, but it is what needs to happen. I realize this now.




Nah, it's not a food allergy. She is actually an allergist in fact. She is a NP for an allergy clinic. It's really funny you say this actually, quite serendipitous. As I said above she has suffered from depression since she was very young. She hid it very well, but now that I look at her with a skeptical eye. All the problem signs are there. She has an obsession with clothes, and shoes. It is ridiculous. She has a closet that is full of nothing, but shoes there is probably close to a hundred pair in there. She has two closets full of clothes, plus two bedrooms worth of dressers full of clothes. Yet one more closet full of coats, and jackets. Nobody needs that much clothes, it seems to me she just buys things to try to make herself happy. Furthermore, every time I see her she usually wears one of the same 5 outfits, out of her robust collection. I went Black Friday shopping with her, and she bought herself four pairs of boots. That is pretty darn unnecessary. It's probably a way she deals with the depression.

As for the drinking. She doesn't drink everyday, but she does drink probably at the very least once a week. Three Saturdays ago I met her after the OSU game at her family's tailgate party, and she was completely smashed. She was worried about her dad, almost certain he had cancer again, and drank herself to a very drunken state. It was the first time, I saw her this drunk since high school. I'm sure it is a result of the depression, and a way she copes with it. She has gone to counseling for the depression, but only twice. I imagine that was when the Lexapro was prescribed. I hope she can fix herself, and finally find happiness. Maybe then we would be able to date again. Maybe she is still the one, and the timing just isn't right. Whatever the case, I think she is incapable of truly loving me at this point in time. Again she needs to learn to love herself first.

Sorry for those of you that may be getting tired of these posts. Thanks to all of those who have been willing to share helpful advice. I'm hoping this will be the last post of it's kind. Some of you may remember I attempted to walk away about a month, and a half ago, maybe two months ago. That was when this depression was brought to my attention. Once that happened, I felt I needed to be there for her. I probably still need to be there for her, but now it will be as just a friend. Thanks again to all who offered helpful advice.

Originally Posted by Soloist Assassin (Post 15037481)

She is 30, and I am 31. I am also sure I won't have any trouble dating. I actually have two girls I could date right now, if I wanted to other than her. My mother really likes her, but she recognizes her faults as well. She also is quite aware of how much I care about her. I've come to the conclusion this morning as I woke up in a cold sweat from a nightmare about this very situation, that it is indeed time to let go. This time for good perhaps. I've been lying to myself all along. She's cheated on me before, and she is most likely never going to be happy. It's just the way it is. I hate to admit it, but it is a fact. I have full intentions of making our date Sunday our last date. It's time for us to end this amicably once and for all.

The problems are driven by her deep depression. She has suffered from this since she was a young child. It's time for me to just step back, and be a friend, and realize that is all I can ever be to her. I've given a lot this last go around. I've changed myself in many ways for the better, and I've learned a lot. I was starting to loose myself in all of it. I was willing to give up parts of me that make me who I am, to fit her mold of what she wanted me to be. I can't do that to myself. I really hope she finds whatever it is she is looking for. I really hope she pursues counseling more. I've been hurt, and I've destroyed myself over her for far too long. It's time for me to think about myself, and what is best for me. I'd like to continue to be her friend, and help her in anyway I can. She has helped me, along with the posters in this thread this last time, to realize what was wrong with me. I suffered from depression myself for years, which I can only attribute to me feeling like I was not good enough for her. I realize now that isn't the case, and I am not the one with the problem any longer. I am happy with who I am, and I am happy being alone with myself.

I always thought she was the one. There were always these little serendipitous occurrences that would always bring us back together over the years. It made me think there was some higher power bringing us together. Maybe there is, and the timing is just off. She really needs to figure out herself, and become happy with who she is. Until she learns to love herself, I feel she will be incapable of loving someone else. Me on the other hand, I am completely capable, and for the last three months I've been making her my first priority. It seems it was all for nothing, but who really knows. I guess I can just remember the good times we had. Maybe there will be more in the future, maybe not. This Sunday, will be the day I let go, and I just hope for her sake she can figure herself out. I'm just going to step back, and be a friend. I'd like to continue to be her friend, and support her, but us having a relationship just isn't possible now. This is going to be hard, but it is what needs to happen. I realize this now.




Nah, it's not a food allergy. She is actually an allergist in fact. She is a NP for an allergy clinic. It's really funny you say this actually, quite serendipitous. As I said above she has suffered from depression since she was very young. She hid it very well, but now that I look at her with a skeptical eye. All the problem signs are there. She has an obsession with clothes, and shoes. It is ridiculous. She has a closet that is full of nothing, but shoes there is probably close to a hundred pair in there. She has two closets full of clothes, plus two bedrooms worth of dressers full of clothes. Yet one more closet full of coats, and jackets. Nobody needs that much clothes, it seems to me she just buys things to try to make herself happy. Furthermore, every time I see her she usually wears one of the same 5 outfits, out of her robust collection. I went Black Friday shopping with her, and she bought herself four pairs of boots. That is pretty darn unnecessary. It's probably a way she deals with the depression.

As for the drinking. She doesn't drink everyday, but she does drink probably at the very least once a week. Three Saturdays ago I met her after the OSU game at her family's tailgate party, and she was completely smashed. She was worried about her dad, almost certain he had cancer again, and drank herself to a very drunken state. It was the first time, I saw her this drunk since high school. I'm sure it is a result of the depression, and a way she copes with it. She has gone to counseling for the depression, but only twice. I imagine that was when the Lexapro was prescribed. I hope she can fix herself, and finally find happiness. Maybe then we would be able to date again. Maybe she is still the one, and the timing just isn't right. Whatever the case, I think she is incapable of truly loving me at this point in time. Again she needs to learn to love herself first.

Sorry for those of you that may be getting tired of these posts. Thanks to all of those who have been willing to share helpful advice. I'm hoping this will be the last post of it's kind. Some of you may remember I attempted to walk away about a month, and a half ago, maybe two months ago. That was when this depression was brought to my attention. Once that happened, I felt I needed to be there for her. I probably still need to be there for her, but now it will be as just a friend. Thanks again to all who offered helpful advice.

Originally Posted by WhyFi (Post 15037563)

Cliffs Notes version?

Originally Posted by patentcad (Post 15037569)

There's a blues song in there somewhere.