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solo, you're a giant face palm man. do not see her.
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Originally Posted by Soloist Assassin
(Post 15074280)
I don't want to handle her. I don't want her in my life any longer. I know she doesn't love me or even understand the word. I don't want to see her fail either. I can see her going down the same road as RUOkie's wife, and loosing her medical license, and ruining her life. I understand it is her problem, not mine. I basically want to tell her I understand it all, and I can finally move on, and I want her to recognize her problem, and try to fix herself. I'd like to hear from her in a few years, and see she is happy, and married to someone else living a fulfilled life, which is what I would like for myself as well. I know her happiness is not my problem, but I don't want to see her go on like this.
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Originally Posted by Soloist Assassin
(Post 15073778)
This has been going on for the last 12 years since I've been out of high school. She would always find me. It's not even worth changing my number or anything else. She'll come back, and I'll have to stay strong, and resist. Actually after the letter I wrote, she may either commit suicide for real, hate me for the rest of her life, or realize what she has done.
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Originally Posted by WhyFi
(Post 15074304)
Ah, that makes perfect sense - you're no longer under the delusion that you're going to fix her, but you're going to open her eyes to her own problem so that she can fix herself. For ****s sake, Solo, get your head out of your ass. You ignored, ignored, ignored the collective advice going in to this and you're still ignoring the collective advice to this day, a clear demonstration that you haven't learned a goddamn thing.
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therapy does not exist because people are unique and they are acting in a way that is special to them. there are unskillful patterns of behavior in people that are common, and navigable because people have been there and can recognize the patterns of what works and what doesn't. you are not going to be the light that shines down on this woman's issues and opens the door way to the other side. your only role in this is to support the existing pattern. solo you are not a unique and special snowflake.
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Originally Posted by gsteinb
(Post 15074081)
There's very little chance anything is going to change, and there's no small dose of irony in you thinking you're 'fine' or don't need to work through your issues around this. That you can't just let it go without some weak attempt at 'closure' simply points to the fact that you're stuck. There's a manipulative and unhealthy force in your life that repeatedly draws you into a pattern of behavior that is not skillful. Yet you keep rationalizing reasons for moving the 'it's over' line, even so much as couching it (again and again) as this time I mean it. You owe her nothing. She is bad for you. If you see her you are making a mistake. Writing her, any more than a few words saying it's over, is a mistake. Just text her and block her number. You simply do not have the skills you need to navigate this. You've demonstrated this time and again.
http://bikeforums.net/attachment.php...hmentid=289409 Solo said this has been going on for 12 years and she always finds him. Restraining order??? This qualifies for Ripley's Believe It Or Not. He's not willing to change his number, block her number, etc. I know we will be reading about his situation for years to come. I hope Bentley will adjust to having a nut job as his new Mum and little Solo's running around the house. I know dogs are forgiving, but Bentley doesn't deserve this type of life.:( http://bikeforums.net/attachment.php...hmentid=289411 |
Originally Posted by RUOkie
(Post 15074064)
Oh good. I get to go on vacation. So glad the world did not end.
http://t2.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:A...NOtAZoHBb1zQEA |
Originally Posted by runwiththewind
(Post 15074362)
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Originally Posted by Soloist Assassin
(Post 15074178)
I realize that I was suffering from low self-esteem that was placed on me by this girl via her own issues. I know she is bad for me, and I know it must end. I also know I don't owe her anything. I do still care for her, and I do want her to make herself better. I want her to be happy. I just don't want her in my life any longer.
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Originally Posted by TampaRaleigh
(Post 15074386)
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Originally Posted by truckstop
(Post 15072885)
i think i've reached the bottom of the home cure barrel. got halfway through a glass of warm water/apple cider vinegar/honey. yuck.
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i think solo is doing the right thing.
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Originally Posted by coasting
(Post 15074398)
i think solo is doing the right thing.
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Originally Posted by Soloist Assassin
(Post 15074237)
I know I should hate her for what she has done. I just can't. Again shutting off all communication will not work. I've tried that before. This conversation that we will have today must be it, or the letter must be sent. I've learned a lot of lessons from all of this. I really thank all of you. I'm not even mad about it. I am just disappointed.
Please explain. If she lives 1 hr. away from you and you shut off all communication - what is she doing? Does her family (parents/siblings) know she has suicidal tendencies? This is their problem and should be helping her, not you. |
Originally Posted by gsteinb
(Post 15074402)
in reference to our entertainment value?
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The Ferguson image still applies to SBSP.
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Originally Posted by runwiththewind
(Post 15074403)
I'm totally confused.
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Originally Posted by LesterOfPuppets
(Post 15073599)
I did 20.6 miles on the roads in the crappy, crappy rain.
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Originally Posted by coasting
(Post 15074398)
i think solo is a total nut job.
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Why was my avatar removed? A simple warning would have worked if animations aren't allowed. I've been inserting them since I joined the group - why now???
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Originally Posted by coasting
(Post 15074426)
absolutely. I no longer watch soap opera on tv so I need my fix of melodrama.
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Hey Assassin.
It's time to grow up, man. Other than that, good luck. |
ok...lets all give some advice based on our personal experiences. I was once played along with another guy by an extremely manipulative woman and being made of sterner stuff than the other fellow, I saw through her act and guessed she must have been using the same lines on me as with him. I decided she was not worth it and tried to help the other fellow by telling him what she said to me and he was shocked because she said the same to him. I thought that would wake him up about the evil manipulator but unfortunately not. I told him, we hould both just ignore her and stop talking to her.
A week later, I checked if he had stuck to the plan and whilst I had and felt so much more at peace than before, he had in a moment of weakness given in and called her. He was back in her game and being toyed with mercilessly but she wasn't getting the thrill that she wanted because only he was playing. So she contacted me and tried to get me back in but I refused and wouldn't return emails/calls. After a while of cold shouldering by me, she finally gave up on me and dropped him too. Messing with just one sad sap was not enough of a kick. |
Originally Posted by RTDub
(Post 15074156)
Weather not looking good for a lunch ride today.
https://lh6.googleusercontent.com/-Z...apocalypse.jpg |
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