White breads are pretty bad. Whole grains are not so much of a problem.

I think Tom Petty once met my "friend". He wrote this song on his most recent album. This song has to be about her.

Beginning to think Soloist is a bit of a drama queen.

He can type up a big ol' grey block of a post when he sets his mind to it, too!

beginning to think solo has more depth than the gun nut we know.

Is that right, crxbart? ;)

I am59, I understand.

Careful- he's got 14 loaded mags.

We don't eat white bread. 90% of the bread we eat is a mix of 50/50 mix of white flour and wheatmeal often with extra seeds/grains thrown in. Breadmakers are wonderful. I can put a loaf on at night, set the timer and have fresh bread to take for lunch in the morning.

SA

I don't know you folks, so any advice that I can give is circumspect. But I will share the only piece of advice that our second marriage councilor gave that I found to be worth anything:

Everyone has an adult mode, and a child mode. When they are hurt, or upset, or scared, they tend to revert to their child mode. In a relationship, when one person turns into a child, the other tends to respond in kind, and then both act like children and get nowhere. One key to success is to teach the other person's child that you can be an adult when they need you to, and that your adult is trustworthy. Your adult needs to be able to care for their small moments, and vice versa. It shouldn't be one sided, and both adult aspects have to look out for both childish sides.

I thought it made sense, and gave me kind of perspective on my situation. Don't know if it will help you, but again, good luck, and it seemed appropriate.

I think we should all pitch in and buy solo a hooker and some blow.

The only non home made bread I eat is Brownberry ovens Health Nut- love it.

You found one of my alter egos, eh?

Makes sense. I will try to convey this message on our date Sunday, and act appropriately.

I got five on it - he's in OH, how expensive can it be?

We need to confiscate his weapons first.

Nah - just don't have speakers on this computer, so I looked up the lyrics and there it was.

I got a bottle of rum from the company Christmas party today. I just mixed it with some apple cider. It was pretty amazing. Just a crazy idea I came up with.

Another good thing to avoid are accusations of any kind or any attempt at placing blame, and for god's sake don't tell her she's in her child mode.
Here is a recipe for marital success that will stand the test of time, worked for my parents and has worked for me.
1) Start off by being in love, if you are not sure you love her at the start trouble may follow.
2) Every single day after that marriage day remember that love, how you felt, and make a conscious, volitional decision to love and respect and to build up your wife. It's not a feeling, it's a decision, never belittle, never insult, never contradict in public or private.
3) Help her out, doing the dishes, the laundry, the shopping, the cooking.
4) Never go to bed angry, share the burden, the feelings without a "you said or you did", rather try" I feel "

That is one of our rules. I haven't been to bed in six months. :o

never go to bed on a full stomach. the pain will scare the hell out of you.

Great advice. I've successfully completed everything in 1, and 3. We clearly are not married so 2 has not happened. I like your idea with number 4. Great advice indeed. I really appreciate the help my BF brothers.

no cinnamon?

I just wake up super hungry when I go to bed on a full stomach.

I haven't had much of an appetite lately. I finally got back down to 145lbs again. Been up to as high as 150 since Thanksgiving. A nice side effect of being stressed out about this situation, I guess.